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writes:I met a girl in one of my college classes, and slowly I began talking to her more and more. After class one day she asked me if I wanted to go to dinner with her within the coming week. Unfortunately, she ended up being busy. I tried setting up our date two more times, and again she was not able to go out. During this entire period she was really responsive and friendly. She seemed genuinely interested in me, and her reasons for not going out seemed legitimated (i.e snowstorm). But, when I called her for a forth time I received no answer. And, she never called me back. (I didn't see her after this because class was out of session by this time).This entire experience has been really disappointing for me. I put so much effort into trying to get this date, only to never go on it. I just thought it would have fun. I feel confused about why she never called back?
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reader, Blackjack2592 +, writes (17 May 2010):
Maybe she didn't call back because you somehow gave her the impression that you are a clingy, needy W-U-S-S-Y! Being needy kills any glimmer of attraction that may have ever existed, so don't be a needy wuss. Always act like you have other options, even if you don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): It's kind of like fishing. You have thrown the line in. now you just have to wait for the fish. Your question to why she hasnt called back is simple. Maybe the fish isnt hungry(interested) or maybe you didnt bait the line properly. Or maybe the fish sences something wrong with the line.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 May 2010):
 It would be better to wait for the next chance you see her and see how her responses are.
She could have missed that call or was too busy to take it. There are many possibilities and it is better to see her first and find out from her where she stands.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 May 2010):
The most likely thing is that she has met someone else and decided to go with them. Maybe she just couldn't say anything. Don't take it personally. Move on from her.
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reader, Witchy +, writes (15 May 2010):
You DO sound nice! Don't be discouraged you have no idea what is going on with her. If you felt a true connection or just plain curiosity leave a message (hopefully she has voicemail!)and tell her that you're still interested in that dinner!
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reader, PoohDenTheatre +, writes (15 May 2010):
 Maybe she's a single girl out for a good time and isn't looking for a commitment like most females her age. I think she just wants to get laid.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (15 May 2010):
 You sound like a nice guy so don't be so hard on yourself. It is possible that she met someone else maybe around the same time that she started talking to you and doesn't have the heart or maturity level to tell you that. Have you thought about that? Turn your efforts elsewhere and see what happens.
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reader, goodfriend +, writes (15 May 2010):
I would wait. That she was the one asking you to go to dinner with her is a good thing. If you try and push too hard, you may push her away. There may have been a reason why she didn't call back. I would not call her again, just wait until you see her again in class and see what reaction you get from her. I agree though, it is frustrating and confusing. You have tried a number of times now to set the date up, so however hard it may be, just wait now for her response. I hope it works out for you :)
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