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writes:am a virgin i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend and no bleeding and now my boyfriend think am not a virgin he thinks that i have had sex with somelse. but i know am a virgin , i swear, and don't know why no bleedigi really need help?i don't know what to dowhat do i do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): I didn't bleed either and my bf thought the same thing... I felt so disrespected that he thought that about me... but he looked it up in the internet and apologized we been together for 5 years now and getting married
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 Not all virgins bleed and your boyfriend is being an ass-hat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): Given your age, he should be a bit more wordly by now, and know that not all women bleed. I didnt bleed my first time, but I bled my secong time. Meaning he didn't break it. Of course, saying that might imply that he has a small penis in his obviously limited view, so dont tell him that bit. Point is, sometimes women do and sometimes they dont.
The deeper issue here is that he doesn't trust you. He thinks you would lie to him about this! Thats a bad sign for any relationship. Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and if he lacks it there isn't much you can do to fix that.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 The hymen is an elastic membrane with a small opening in the middle to let menstrual blood flow. In nearly 50% of cases it does not get "broken " but simply yields to penetration with no,or very very little, blood or pain.
Some girls are born without hymen at all.
These are scientific facts that can be checked on any medical encyclopedia or asking any doctor. But do not bother having your boyfriend check- he sounds like a closeminded,suspicious individual that is not able to trust.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 That a woman must bleed during her first intercourse is undoubtedly the most misguided notion people harbour.
The bleeding occurs when the hymen splits. Rigorous exercises such as cycling or accidents can split the hymen.
The hymen can also rupture, when women masturbate.
Some women bleed and some will not. It is very unfortunate when the man does not trust and believed in you .
There is nothing you can do about him when he thinks that way.
If he wants to leave you because of his misguided notions, then he is not worth your love.
If it is true love, he will not mind.
You will have to accept his uncompromising stand even though you know the real truth.
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reader, lwstudent  +, writes (28 April 2010):
caring guy is right. the hymen is only a vey thin membrane and many sports activities can break it, such as horse riding. it explains y you didnt bleed even though your a virgin. you can search this on the internet,show it to your guy and make him apologise for over reacting and for being an idiot!
best of luck
xxx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 April 2010):
Perhaps your Hymen was broken years ago. The point is, you know you're a virgin. Like all small minded men, he's making a big deal out of something that doesn't matter. I'm a guy, so my advice is limited, but the Hymen can be broken by lots of other things such as sports activities. Just because you didn't bleed doesn't mean you're not a virgin. Watch out with this guy you're with, because he seems to be a bit unstable.
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