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writes:what does it mean when a girl says, 'stop being awkward around me, I dont want you to feel awkward, I Dont want you to be awkward the next time we meet, if you carry on being awkward you've got no chance. I can understand you met me in a wkward situation but still.Sorry to sound really naive and stupid but do you think she's after friendship or perhaps something a bit more? if you want to know the back story refer to my last questionoh and btw in awkward i mean as in 'unsure how to act in a situation' Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 I think it sounds like she wants you to be different from what you are and can't accept that this is how you really act around people.
And after reading that other post of yours, she does not strike me as someone Id like to meet. In fact I think you should stay away. She is rude and hostile and I agree, very weird. Drama queen perhaps and even fake, since she acts two faced. Everything screams for you to run away, there are multiple red flags. There's absolutely no reason for you to try and hook up with her unless you enjoy her rudeness and being walked all over.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (28 April 2010):
I think it sounds like she wants you to be different from what you are and can't accept that this is how you really act around people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): She sounds really scary.
Is she borderline or something? She seems manipulative. It's always bothersome when drama arises around someone repeatedly.
If I were you I'd avoid her. Even if you're uncomfortable in her presence, she does not have the right to judge that. It's your business.
If she truly wanted you to improve, Rojo is right, she'd tell you to relax and help you do so. Telling you to "be less awkward" is very counterproductive, it'll just make things worse.
I'm inclined to believe she's making it harder for you on purpose, but she doesn't need to be. Regardless of which, I think a relationship with her would be bad for you, and maybe her too.
I wouldn't keep her as a friend and I'd try to reduce time spent with her. If she ever tells you someone else did something bad towards her, or said something bad about you, I'd take that with a barn of salt.
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reader, rojo  +, writes (28 April 2010):
Are you nervous around her? If you are then she can probably sense that you are uncomfortable and that in turn makes he uncomfortable too. She probably wants you to relax and be yourself and not to worry about what you say or how you act. Remember if she likes you then she likes "YOU". You dont have to put on an act and pretend to be somthing your not. Relax, be yourself, show confidence! Hope this helps. Good luck!
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reader, NauseaPunk +, writes (28 April 2010):
NauseaPunk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/can-anyone-please-interpret-this-girls-behavior.html
this will give you a bit about the back story, and she did say 'if your awkward when we meet next you've got no chance'
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 April 2010):
I think she's being a first rate cow if you want the truth, and I don't think you need her on your life. Okay, so you're shy, we get it. But to actually say 'stop being so awkward or you've got no chance' is a little closed minded of her and quite cruel really. What she's trying to say is you need to relax more. Maybe you're coming across as very shy. But to be honest, she' not trying to help you relax. She's just being a cow. I don't think she's worth your time.
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