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Why did this happen? Is he not interested in sex with me anymore?

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Question - (28 February 2011) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 March 2011)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I was having sex with my bf of a year the other day. I was on top and he went a bit floppy, enough for it to keep falling out/being hard to get back in (sorry to be graphic).

After about 5 mins he ended up finishing. Im just wondering if anyone has any idea of why he went floppy? Is it normal, does it show lack of interest? Thanks aunties!!! x

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A male reader, firstlovelastlove Canada +, writes (1 March 2011):

firstlovelastlove agony auntSince you two have been together for a year and it sounds like this is the first time it's happened I would say he either had a lot on his mind and something was bothering him a lot; or he should see a doctor. Either way, it is not you.

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A female reader, misLadYd.. South Africa +, writes (28 February 2011):

misLadYd.. agony auntsometimes it means he is thinking about something else. Or he is not in the mood

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A male reader, IHateWomanBeaters United States +, writes (28 February 2011):

IHateWomanBeaters agony auntThink about it this way. A man getting hard, is the equivalent of a woman getting wet.

If you are not into it that day, because of some exterior stressor, you will not get wet, just like he would not get hard.

Sometimes, it just happens. It does not mean he is not interested in you, it just means he was having a lot on his mind at that exact moment.

I do talk a lot about my studly escapades on this site when they are relavent to the story. Now, I am going to talk about them and my unstudly times.

There have been times where I have been really great in bed. I have set orgasm records for every girl I have been with that I semi-enjoyed. I have given sixty anal orgasms in one go before. Given thirty orgasms in one hour, when the previous record for the woman was eight with someone she was in love with, etc.

With that said, I have gone limp before, because I was simply not in the right mindset only to shatter an orgasm record with the same person the very next day.

Contrary to what people want to say, the reality is men are more complicated, sexually, than women.

He probably was just having a lousy day and had stuff on his mind.

If you make a big deal about it, you will make the problem worse and worse and worse.

It happens. Just keep on doing what you are doing.

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A male reader, LovelessAct1 United States +, writes (28 February 2011):

How long have you been having sex? If its still very early in your sex life, chances are he's still very nervous about things, which is normal but also has an effect on erections.

The more comfortable you become with one another, the smoother things will be. Practice makes perfect :)

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A male reader, danlucas United States +, writes (28 February 2011):

It happens. Sucks for you. Sucks for a guy x10. Hes the one who has to perform. Don't sweat it. Just make light of it. It may happen again. It's called sexual performance anxiety and it can kill his confidence. If it happens, don't get upset, just concentrate on other stuff and it'll come back. Worse thing to do is make him feel pressured about preformance. Enjoy yourself and him. Sex is more then just intercourse. Switch to foreplay then back to sex. It'll be fine and clear the mood and things will probably straighten out. Lol

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