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writes:sorry to all bisexuals...i am a teenager at highschool and have been having some problems and it has been upsetting me. it all started in a normal pe lesson and this girl *Chloe* came up to me and asked me if i was bisexual, i was just about to say "no" when my "friend" inturrupted me for a laugh and said i was. the next thing i no everyone is calling me bisexual! later on that day, some of my bestfriends started shuffling away from me saying "stay away from the bi" until i burst out crying in front of everyone in the schoolyard. then they admitted they were sorry, but why would they do that in the first place if there supposed to be my bestfriends? i just cant see why i should forgive them if there going to upset me or react to me like that, i have feelings too and i have a boyfriend! Reply to this Question
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reader, well-help +, writes (7 March 2010):
 if its happened again tell your friend straight its seriously not on for her to be like that, sorry for the late reply
previously i said i was bi i guess i just thought i was some girl spun a web about me saying id dont stuff with her with i told her i thought i was bi but anyway tell your friend nicley to stop it shes obv not a real friend
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reader, gRaa +, writes (20 February 2010):
gRaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Its happened again? what do I do!?
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reader, gRaa +, writes (19 July 2009):
gRaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, youve all helped me (: i am very sensitive
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): If they've said they're sorry, and it hasn't happened since, forget about it and just put it behind you, it's no big deal. But if it's a recurring problem and you're repeatedly being tormented by these people, you need to talk to someone (maybe see what your boyfriend suggests) or stand up for yourself. Easier said than done, I know. From about age 14 (I'm now 19) I had to put up with some pretty vicious homophobic abuse from a lot of the guys in my school. On one occasion I was beaten up and kicked in the balls by four guys (one of whom I had a crush on!) No blood was shed, but it wasn't what you would call a pleasant experience. If anything, that was easier to handle than the constant 'queer' and 'faggot' taunts. (I wasn't even certain if I was actually gay, though I did turn out to be). It seemed to get a little bit easier around about 17 - by that stage I'd become friends with a good few of the girls, which made life easier - I also think anti-gay prejudice in young guys becomes maybe a little less virulent after the mid-teenage years. Nowadays I don't really come across many people who object to my sexuality, and when I do, I avoid them! (In your case, I asssume you're straight anyway so you've less to worry about.) At any rate, you do get through it, and become confident enough that you don't care about what mean, cruel people say or think. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous123456789101112131415  +, writes (22 June 2009):
I understand your pain. I once had issues wiht sensitivity, and I remember how angry and hurt I would feel when people told me, "It's just harmless teasing, you shouldn't be so sensitive, develope a thicker skin" and so on. I prayed through this an came up with a solution. Whenever I was not confident, or when I was hurt, I pretended to be confident or like I thought the "joke" was funny. If you keep pretending something, it comes true. Now I am a very confident person, easily able to meet new people and to share how i feel without emotional outburtst, and I have discovered that i have a wit that people don't always like to provoke. When people tease me, which isn't very often, i laugh it off, give them a sarcastic comeback which turns the joke around on them, and it really doesn't bother me any more. Keep pretending and it will eventually become reality. And now i'm the life of the party :D
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reader, Starlights +, writes (22 June 2009):
 firstly in school its normal for there to be some jokes passed amongst friends... its teasing and although you felt offended by the comments it wasnt true, so you shouldnt have taken it so personally.
surely they know you have a boyfriend, so they were just teasing.
its upto you to forgive them or not, i agree its not nice for all the friends to gang up and have a laugh at your expense but this happens in school regularly and next time someone makes a jibe at you try laugh it off, becoz you know its not true & because they dont usaully mean it!
they usaully saying it to gain the "popularity" vote, so either tell them to shut up and walk away or laugh with them
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reader, well-help +, writes (22 June 2009):
i spose they didnt mean to hurt you
this has happened to me and i got picked on by people for it
a year later i know im bi now
but i wasnt then and if i said something people would just say oh shut up you lesbo and stuff its not nice but it will pass as for yyour friends tell them how you feel but the person that did that to me is no longer my friend they wasnt worth my time
hope that helped
xoxox
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reader, betty_black +, writes (22 June 2009):
 It was a harmless joke that hurt you more than they realised. Dont worry about it, it went round school i was gay more times than i can count on both hands and i always had a boyfriend! Its just one of them things. Kids are cruel, and get their kicks out of other peoples misery. It will pass when they find something else to gossip about. The best thing to do is lap it up and say you are! Theres nothing wrong with bisexuality, i know your not, but they dont really have much to say when you turn round and say yeah i am, whats the issue? do they!
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reader, ladydela  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 well think about before all this happened did you upset one of your freinds? did you did something bad to them before or maybe they were just trying totell you but said it too loud and also are u bisexual? if you are then you shouldnt hide it but that your choice anyways if you did something that bothered them or that hurt them then that probably why they did what they did
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