A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi Cupids,mine isn't a love question but I'm annoyed at what's happened.At the weekend work organised a night out to somewhere me and my boyfriend had never been to so a girl who works with me and her BF said we could follow them - which we did. But instead of her BF driving slow so we could keep up her deliberatly drive really fast as to try and lose us and and it seemed he was showing off,When we finally arrived at our destination my BF bought everyone a drink and as soon as everyone got their drink we were ignored!My BF has met my colleagues before so it's not like he was a stranger but it just felt as no one could be bothered to speak to us. We haven't done anyhhing to upset anyone and I get on with my team but Saturday night didn't show that. Also mh manager didn't even bother to say hello.Everyones elses partner was involved except mine.The atmosphere at work today is fine and people have even asked if my man had a good time.... I'm so confused!
View related questions:
at work Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, maverick494  +, writes (5 July 2010):
Your colleages know damn well their behaviour was unacceptable and to save themselves they ask that innocent question, in hopes of making you question yourself. I bet you were thinking something like: 'did I imagine it? Maybe they were just..[insert excuse]' It's a tried and true strategy. My colleague used it all the time. She would do a couple of subtle things that pissed me off and just when I was about to call her on it, she would say something thoughtful or ask something about how I feel about something. That's pretty much a foolproof way to shut people up and prevent them from speaking their minds. I would just shrug and realize manipulative people like that aren't worth investing any kind of energy in, be it good or bad. If any, it just proves what a nice man your bf is and what arses they are in contrast.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): i personally like to keep my work colleagues and my social life separate. i dont want to hang around with people that i see every day at work on the days when i'm not working. but, that's my personal opinion. i'd rather just see the colleagues at work, and hang out with friends i know from other places on my days off.
...............................
A
male
reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 July 2010):
This reminds me of my old boss. He was an ass as well. That's pretty much it. The good news is you don't really have to do anything other than work with them, so leave it at that.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): if you ask me, your colleagues are just stuck up their own ar**s !. It was very rude of them not to involve you and your boyfriend in their conversations. i wouldnt waste any time thinking about them. it's their loss.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): do they not like him?
...............................
A
male
reader, bruce lee  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 You're disappointed right now because you were ignored. Just remember something. Disappointment lasts for 2 or 3 days. Regret lasts forever. So do not spend any more time regretting the whole experience. Just let it go.
I hope this answers your question.
Your colleages sound like arseholes.
...............................
|
