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writes:I was in love with my ex and would've done anything for him. But all he did was treat me like dirt. He'd insult me in front of friends, ignored me at parties, flirt with other women in front of me, always put me last, and was never once romantic towards me. Then he dumped me and insulted me by text, out of the blue. Why did he do this? I was a good girlfriend and never cheated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): Why let someone treat you so badly? He had no respect for you and you should have called time on him - not the other way around. Decide that you are worth more than this and that no man is going to treat you in such a shabby way again - if so you will have learned a valuable lesson.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): Why? Because he's a douche bag who wouldn't know a decent woman if she slapped him in the face.
It's a good thing he dumped you, it really is. If he hadn't you would never have left him and would still be being treated like crap. You had a very lucky escape and you should thank your lucky stars because you are no longer with that loser.
None of this was your fault, the only think you did wrong was staying with him. I hope the next guy you date is better than him and you make sure never to let anyone treat you that way again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): His habit of bad treatment worked. You stayed with him. You sent the message that it was how you really wanted to be treated.
As long as you were with this guy, you were also keeping yourself off the market. No other better respectful guys could be with you. Guess what message you have been sending them this whole time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): He did it because he;s a nasty immature d*******d, thats; why!! You are too good for him. one day he will realise that x
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reader, amicalus  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 the best advice for you is
THROW HIM
Good luck
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 December 2010):
I agree with the post below. You're asking the wrong question here. He treated you that way, because he could and you allowed it. That's what people like him do. They seen an opportunity to use and abuse someone, so they do it.
But the real question is why you were so willing to allow someone to treat you this way. No one who is confident and happy with their life will stand there and take this abuse, even if they do love a partner. They'd see that is was bad and move on.
I think the most important thing you can do for yourself now is to just step back and really take a look at yourself. Are you a confident, happy person? Or are you very insecure and does that need dealing with.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Instead of asking "why did he treat me this way?" maybe you should be asking "why did I stay with him?"
That's what I'd like to know anyways...
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