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writes:I am late 40's, no kids and never married. Got a great man who is early 50's with adult daughters and teenage grandkids. Problem is holiday meals. I am a terrific cook of any style food. Trouble is, kids and grandkids are oddly picky eaters. They do not eat green veggies of any sort, one likes turkey, one likes ham, the others don't like either... I've tried spaghetti, chicken and dumplings, chili, you name it but someone always seems to not eat. Teenage grandkid even called one of my soups " nasty". ( rude behavior nit acknowledged or disciplined by her mother or grandfather.). I have asked what they'd like to have served with always the same answer-"anything". I go to a lot of effort as well as expense to entertain them, and it's very frustrating to serve something unacceptable. Any suggestions would be helpful. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): HiDon't think they have a real problem with your food....if they were hungry they would eat....bad manners and step mother is the real problem i would guess.You sound like a great step mom tell them to cook their own food if they complain after this, don' let them wear you down or put up with bad manners and stiring to create a bad christmas.....no matter what stunt they come up with make sure you keep happy, and the more they say they don't like something that you have took the time and effort to cook and prepare for them....say how much you like it and stress this and point out your ability to cook well.you could ask one of them to come and help prepare what they want in particular otherwise enjoy the turkey...spunky monkey
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 December 2010):
Good for you. You've been very patient, and you've tried hard. It's their problem they don't like your food. I think whatever you cook they'll just moan. Cook what you want, and have a good Christmas.
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reader, Negotiator +, writes (23 December 2010):
Negotiator is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCaring Guy- you have confirmed my hunch- exwife has been gone for 20 years and is remarried, but she is bitter. I'm very successful in my career, own a lovely farm, attractive, nice cars, clothes, etc. I am quite different than she is- perhaps her resentment of her ex is influencing their treatment of me. Too bad. By the way, I want turkey so that's what we are having.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 December 2010):
Wow! You're a really great woman for putting up with that. I admire you for it, because most step mothers wouldn't care.
That said, perhaps instead of cooking what they want, you should just cook what you want and enjoy it for yourself. You could try making them happy for the rest of your life, and it won't work. If they want to be awkward an rude, let them. I half wonder if this isn't their way of being awkward because you are a step mother, and your food is good. Sometimes step children can be cruel about such things, and they know that by getting at you about food it will hurt you.
Cook what YOU want. You're a good lady, and you're a good cook. If they don't like your food, that's their problem and not yours. Enjoy your own food.
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