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writes:This guy is sending me mixed signals. One day he's completely ignoring, then the next, he talks with me on cam all night. This week, on my birthday, I had a small get together with my friends. We have fun, then some of them leave to get food, including him. When they come back, I see them bringing a cake in. He says that my other friend bought it but I just recently found out he bought it for me. Why would he try to hide the fact he bought it? And is he interested? What's up with him? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Ok OP. I wanted to say something but Dorothy has apparently covered it all and very well. Just read her answer carefully, and get creative with that guy.
Guys who are cautious not to act too 'impulsive' in order to avoid refusal are generally self-respectful and carry themselves in a relatively decent way. Odds are that they would at least be less likely to be the jerk type. I can be 100% wrong but he sounds full of feelings for you, and just Luke Dorothy said; encourage him, but I have a point I think is significant here, and I hope you read this one carefully as well; make sure you like him for who he is, not because his different approach has caught your attention.
Following this idea will always prevent a lot of meaningless and unwanted relationships.
Best luck,
Tutankhamen
Egypt
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 he sounds cool to me, and a little shy.
give him more time to get to know you better.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (13 October 2010):
Hi there. He hid the fact that he bought the cake, because he likes you. He probably feels self-conscious about showing his feelings and a bit awkward. Most young men this age feel exactly the same way when it comes to girls they like.
He's shy, that's how shy guys behave. It's a clear sign.
Perhaps he might like to actually be your boyfriend, but doesn't want to come on too strong, in case you reject him and tell him to "get lost". Although, that's not likely to happen as you both seem to have a pretty good rapport with each other.
Just be friendly towards him and instead of talking on web cam regularly, why don't you actually call each other up on the telephone and organise to go out to a movie one Saturday afternoon, and choose one you both like. That way you make it a lot more personal, instead of only seeing each other when you are out in a group. In a big group, you never get to really know each other properly, because there's always other people there, so you can't talk without others hearing your conversation.
Just break the ice with him the next time you see him or are on web cam with him, and simply suggest going to the movies and ask him what movie he likes and talk about it - then do it. Take it from there, and see how it goes.
By suggesting seeing a movie, you are definitely showing your interest towards him so he'll have no doubts as to how you do feel about him. At the moment he is unsure, and doesn't know where he stands with you. So until you give him some encouragement, he will never know. The movie suggestion, is the encouragement he needs.
Good luck with it. Hope this helps you. Best wishes.
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