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writes:Dear CupidMy bf of 2 years always put me down whenever he talks to me, he talks as if im invalid, good for nothing,uses me just for my money.I had enough and i told him im not going to call him anymore. I thought he might chnage his ways, he never did before though. He replied to my text saying thank you and blocked my number, blocked me from facebook and other social network sites.Why did he do that for? I am depressed, feel like someone i loved has hurt me, what should i do. How do i stop calling him and begging him from payphone.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (16 August 2012):
You’ve broken up, so what do you expect? He obviously doesn’t want to change, he’s accepted that the relationship is over and now you should do the same. Breaking up with some-one isn’t a good way to make them change their ways: you can’t force some-one to change, they have to want to. Clearly, he doesn’t. That means it’s not going to work between you. Perhaps he blocked you because he wants to move on, or perhaps he did it to make things easier for you. But leave him alone and come to terms with what’s happened.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (16 August 2012):
 He has simply accepted your break up, he doesnt want to change instead he would rather the relationship ended.
You were not happy with him, I know you loved him but it sounds like he treated you very badly so you know what, you are better off without him.
We cant tell you how to stop yourself going to payphones and calling him, you are going to have to get some willpower and learn how to be strong. Your boyfriend knows the relationship is over and doesnt want to speak to you, so you are just going to have to face facts that there is nothing more you can do and no amount of begging is going to get your boyfriend back and miraculously change him into a better boyfriend.
Keep yourself busy with friends and families, do as many hobbies as possible so you are busy a lot of the time, this will help stop you obessing so much over him.
Tell yourself every time you want to call him that IT IS OVER and remind yourself of how unhappy you were when you were with him, and how he was using you so that should stop you from wanting to call him so much.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 August 2012):
 You broke up with him hoping he would see the light and change his ways? I guess that backfired on you.
How do you stop yourself from begging him to take you back? Write down everything that was wrong with the relationship on an index card and laminate it. Put it on a cord around your neck and refer to it whenever you get the urge to call him.
Or put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it hard whenever you start to daydream about getting him back.
Or use a Sharpie to write "NO! DO NOT CALL!" on the hand that does the dialing.
Someone you loved did hurt you, so just accept that feeling. And know that this feeling will pass in time.
Do you have issues with letting things go or poor impulse control? Are you drinking or using drugs as a means of self-medicating or coping?
We all go through breakups, they are not nice, it's not fun, it's just a hard part of life that we will get through. Loss is inevitable in life. This happens to be a big loss, a boyfriend but it sounds like it was a bad relationship to begin with.
Start to ask yourself, 'what part of me is so upset by this situation?' and then observe yourself as you react to things. Just begin to pay attention, that will help, more than you know.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 August 2012):
 How do you stop?
You realize that you JUST got RID of a SLUG of a boyfriend! READ what you wrote about him...
****My bf of 2 years always put me down whenever he talks to me, he talks as if im invalid, good for nothing,uses me just for my money.***
And you are contemplating calling this guy? WHY?
He blocked you to PUNISH you. Be glad that he blocked you because it means NO CONTACT from him - it's over honey! Celebrate! Let it go. It obviously wasn't a good or healthy relationship.
Give yourself a little time to mourn that it's over, but then rejoice and start to LIVE your life.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 August 2012):
 You said he uses you
he's good for nothing
you broke up with him
he did what was sane and rationale he blocked you
Did you really break up with him via text?
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