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*pendy
writes:my bf ( should I say my ex) accused me of cheating and messing him around. and didn't contact me for 2months and i didn't call him either cos I knew he was not interested anymore so i got on with my life hoping hed contact me.he rang me on private..i was out so i told him to call me back..he did that night.he asked if i have a bf i said no..he said iw as with a guy ealrier when i called that was why i told him to call me back. (but i wasnt, told him he didnt beleive me) he said he called to see how i was doing and maybe we can be Friends cos hes got his girl and hes happy..told me to take care and then he hung up on mewtf?? omgg.. hes really hurt me..:( i really love him..why did he do that?? my heart is broken i cant even sleep:(thnx..x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 March 2010):
He's an ass, and wanted to hurt you. Chances are he was the one cheating and just laid all the blame at your door. Never speak to him again. Ever.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (30 March 2010):
 "I knew he was not interested anymore so i got on with my life hoping hed contact me." That sentence is a complete contradiction! On one hand you know he is not interested in you however you are hoping that a man who clearly does not want to be with you will contact you?! That is just ridiculous.
He rung you just to have a friendly chat, he probably just wanted to find out what was going on in your life (hence why he was asking about spending time with a guy) and he maybe also wanted to rub your nose in it a little that he has a new girlfriend and wanted to make sure that you knew how happy he is. Yes that is mean - but this guy sounds like a bit of a jerk so it is to be expected.
You have been broken up for a few months now by the sounds of things so you need to accept it is over and that he has moved on. Regardless of why he called you, or why he said what he said - he has a new girlfriend and is happy. You need to move on and be happy in your life too.
Friendships with ex's rarely work and there is no point in trying to keep in touch when you still have feelings for him, you will only hurt yourself more.
Getting over someone is really hard and takes time, and for a while you will feel heartbroken - this is only natural. But eventually you will start to feel better, the thoughts of him will fade and you will start to feel happy again.
This guy is no good for you, and he has moved on. He is no longer interested in a relationship with you and you have no future together, so now is the time to accept it is really over and move on.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): Hi. He sounds like a spiteful headcase. Im not sure what convinced him you were cheating but he sounds as if he really believed it and now hes going to make you pay. As he managed to move on so quickly, i dont think this is a matter of the heart for him. More a case of injured pride. You could try explaining to him that you didnt cheat on him, but i imagine youve already tried to do that and hes not prepared to listen, prefering instead to think the worst of you. Which is not flattering for you! There is the possibility that he was planning to cheat on you or he was already. And fabricating this accusation is his way if deflecting attention away from what he was/is doing. Try and refuse his calls and work on moving on. Hes not a nice person x
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reader, Kenj +, writes (30 March 2010):
 At a guess it sounds like if he had another girl then its broke off or he is bored with her.
He thinks your with another guy and is trying to make you jealous now. He may try and call you again soon.
He's obviously thinking about you to call and is acting like a jerk when he thinks your not waiting by the phone for him.
Do yourself a true favour - move on and find someone who appreciates you for who you are, not someone who is a paranoid mind game player. Even if you got back together with this guy hes too paranoid, if you have any male friends he will try and stop you seeing them.
Until he lets go of that, hes stuck. Where as you can move on given time.
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