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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend has started suggesting anal sex and while I happily enjoy a little anal stimulation, I don't want him fully penetrating me with his penis; I have a terribly low pain threshold. I don't feel I can say no however as he often lets me use a strap-on on him; how can my saying no be fair? I can talk freely to him usually but I feel like a bit of a hipocrite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Well her feeling she is a hypocrite may be because she could be the one that suggested doing him with a Strap-on. If he suggested it then I don't see why she would feel like she can't say no. Me and my gf do the same thing and while she also enjoys anal and using the strap-on its not for everyone. Though if you do use alot of lube the first time is virtually painless but if you do it I don't suggest going right for it. I would say it prepare yourself like you do to him. Alot of lube alot of time and start with fingers.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Just explain to him that you aren't a big fan of anal. You can't go through with it just because you don't want to upset him. If he loves you he'll respect what you say and not push it any further!
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reader, chunkymunky +, writes (13 May 2007):
 straight up just tell him that you're uncomfortable with the thought of having anal sex. If it's worth it he'll understand sweetie =) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): What you do in the privacy of your own bedroom or car or where ever teen agers do it is your business but the way you tell him is No, I don't want to do that, I don't like it, it hurts me, get over it.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (13 May 2007):
 It sounds like you have good communication so use this. What he likes is'nt necassarily what you like, i am sure he will be understanding of this. Your not a hypocrite at all..
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reader, love-him +, writes (13 May 2007):
 when you use a strap on for him, that isnt givin you pleasure it is givin him the pleasure so you are perfectly right to say no to him. and talking about fairness, chicky you sayin no just makes him think right i will have to continue using whatevr else and just have sex normaly. it shoulkd not affect the use of the strap oon for him...and dont let him think that either! i hope i helped chick, mail me if u wana talk x x x
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