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*at_M_2011
writes:So I have a boyfriend, but there is this one random guy who is insisting I'm like a whore because I'm friendly and have guy friends but I also have girlfriends too, but this one guy knows I'm taken, and keeps asking me to do stuff. I've told him to stop. I've ignored his texts and facebook posts, but he wont give up. He knows I have a boyfriend and he doesnt care. I don't know what to do anymore, cause this guy is really annoying me and I'm a loyal girl, advice please???
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Show the texts to your parents and the school. Make sure his sexual harassing texts are recorded and reported.
On facebook, flag and report tge offensive posts, but then block him. Again, record tge sexual harassment. He's counting on blackmail to get something from you. Whatever your 'past' holds, it doesn't warrant sexual harassment. You don't have to tell your parents about your past. But be sure to report this creepo's crap so he will be made to stop.
Be brave. Bullies count on your silence, so speak up to defeat them!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 If he is that persistant I would tell him off very clearly that you are not interested in him. But I want to bring up the question of when are we really taken. I'm saying this to be a bad thing but in the eyes of the other guy he may beleive he has more to offer you and why shouldn't he be able to try to convince you to date him instead (to an extent). I think the compitition is good for a relationship so you know whats out there and you have obviously picked to stay with your current bf for a reason instead of just being with him because.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 You've told him to stop and he ignores you...this sounds like harassment to me, sexual harassment since he keeps asking you to do these "things." Block his phone number and block him on facebook. If he continues, threaten to report him. I also think you should tell your parents about this. You don't have to give them uncomfortable details, just: Mom, Dad...a boy at school keeps harassing me. Save all the texts and messages he sends-it's evidence in case you reeaallly have to take down this guy. Hopefully, he'll get the message if you block him. That will show him you mean bussiness.
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reader, Kat_M_2011 +, writes (21 October 2010):
Kat_M_2011 is verified as being by the original poster of the question He just wants like someone to screw with and makeout with and get the jobs from, and he thinks that since I have a hard past with a guy, you may message me if you want to know that part its awful, but he knows I've done stuff in my past because of things that get around at my church. I've refrained from doing the things in my past and changed alot. I'm in love with my boyfriend and would never cheat, but this guy is too persistent and it's driving me crazy. So I just dont know what else I can do, I ignore it, he gets more annoying_-----------------------------------------Hey! I've already had my dad text him, but I can try the folow up and see.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 You do not have to do anything. If he really starts to annoy, could remove him from your list of contacts or get a new phone number and make sure he does not know what it is.
What sort of stuff is he trying to make you do? If they are threatening or obscene you could report him.
View this as a test of loyalty to your boyfriend. Just ignore this boy and stay with your boyfriend.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 October 2010):
Next text from him, you reply: "Hi Jimmy, this is Mr. M, Kat's father, answering. My daughter tells me that you keep bothering her despite being told to stop. I am telling you now to stop contacting her. She is now tracking all contact you make with her and I will be following up with your parents if this persists. I will also notify the school about this continuing harassment if it does not stop, now."
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Then start making a record of his posts/texts/contacts to you. I would go ahead and tell your parents too, they can be helpul as well, mine were great when I had problems similar to this.
Additionally, I would block him entirely on facebook and block his number so he cannot text you.
Some people just cannot take a polite "no" for an answer, so you have to call in some help, be firm, suggest that you will take legal action and make sure your parents are aware of the problem. You may have to tell the school authorities as well.
Good luck.
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