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51-59,
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writes:I started an affair 8 months ago with a woman not to much younger than me. From the beginning our sex has been the best I have ever experienced. I actually am able to have a great erection with her and actually every time we make love I last quite long with her. I have never been able to do that with my wife even when I was younger. I was starting to think I had a problem until I met her. Anyone can tell me why that is? Why can I have proper sex with this woman but not my wife?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): "Believe me, I want to the the right thing", now i am confused. are you saying you are going to end your affair? or because your member is harder with the mistress you just cannot see yourself ending it?? choices we have to make!
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female
reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 In some saying, " Religion " The sin and the lie is more feel delicious than the real and good... Karma is always behind.. Look back........
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male
reader, holikdad  +, writes (22 June 2009):
Go ask for help somewhere else.Cheaters are despicable, self centered, and low people.If you were a real man you'd leave your wife instead of stomping on the promises and vows you took.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): the dick is a very confused organ. it cannot smell whether it is your wifes or your mistress' vigina it is getting into. once it's confusion is over, it will make its own discover. for now this confused organ is just nt performing for your missus. i think it is time your missus changed d*ck's and got a more powerful one. in that way she can compare d*cks and you will come out second best. its time to have a talk with your member. it needs to avoid any confusion and needs to know whose vigina to impress.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I appreciate all the answers so far. But i think all of you are missing my confusion here. I had other relationships before getting married and in even those relationships I experienced sexual strength problems, why is it better now?
Believe me, I want to the the right thing, but some might not believe me as I am already doing something wrong.... I am just confused about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): Do your wife a favour and clear off with your bit on the side, Then your wife can move on and get a proper man who can proform in bed.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I think the fact of marriage being a commitment to some people feels unexciting and repressive. This feeling could be your subconscious thought and therefore it plays out in your marital sex life. With freedom to be 'you' and not husband role it feels different and you have more motivation to try. I think on the basis you have always had this problem since you first knew your wife you should do the honourable thing and end your marriage. You are not satisfied and I doubt if your wife is satisfied if you can't maintain an erection or sex doesn't last.... why not let your wife find a man who finds HER as attractive as you find this new woman? You'd be doing her a favour trust me.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 June 2009):
 That's just it, you aren't having "proper" sex with the homewrecker. Man up and address the things you need to improve in your marriage or get out of it. Karma is a high-riding bitch and your name is on her list.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (22 June 2009):
 perhaps it's because you have more feelings for the woman you're cheatuing on her with and you find the whole secretative thing between you and her exciting so it gets you more worked up.
where as with your wife you're not on edge and intense thinking, "will someone walk in on us? Will someone find out our secret affair?"
with your wife you know it's just you and your wife and you probably don't find it exciting because you know it's just you and her and it's normal.
whereas the other woman you're excited and intense because you think "oh no-one knows about us or what we are doing and it's so secrative and hidden".
you like the danger of people not knowing i guess.
hope this helps
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