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writes:Why girls against polygamy? You might say it cause she doesn't want to share her guy. But I don't think it's that simple.A lot of girls are okay with being the mistress. They don't mind sharing a man, as long as the other girl doesn't know about it. But if the other girl knows and approves of it, she's not interested anymore!I'm just wondering why girls think this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): I'm married and I don't like to share what is supposed to belong only to me. It's like sharing your underwear with a stranger..you know.
but here's my breakdown. When a girl dates a married man she feels no commitment and she still feels in control of her life. She can cuddle when she wants and not cuddle when she doesn't want. It's also the thrill and excitement of sneaking around. Now, more than one wife. You knowingly share your spouse, his time, the father or your children. What's the excitement in that. I can't have you on Tuesday because that's the day that you're with the other wife and Wednesday is the third wife's nite. But if you only belong to me I'll have you every nite that I want. I just may not have you during the day because you're "hanging with the boys". LOL....
That's a great WHY question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Polygamy, being a mistress, sex with benefits, open relationship.... I have nothing against any of these, as long as everyone is truthful, everyone consents, who am I to judge these things. For myself, who knows, nobody has ever asked me to be a mistress or a second/third wife. If I ever get into that situation, I'll be sure to update you and tell you how it feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): I believe most girls that get involved with a married man think that they can get the man away from his wife. Sometimes they don't know the man is married before they fall in love with him or he tells her all kinds of bullshit sweet talk, like "I'm not in love with my wife, I'm just there for the kids" or "I can't divorce her or I'll loose everything".
I personally, would never date a man that was married, or even in a long term relationship.
With polygamy, you know the other woman and you know there is no hope for a future where you will have this man all to yourself. Way different scenario.
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reader, Doyouknowme +, writes (4 November 2008):
I think for some woman being the "mistress" gives them a sence of control in a way. They don't have to commit, they certainly can see other people, and they still have freedom to come and go as they please. The married man really has no say on what she does or who she does it with. I think a married man is a safe zone for some woman, knowing that he cannot control her, but that's just a thought
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reader, roxypumkin4ev +, writes (4 November 2008):
 That's a very good question. It really sucks being the other woman I would think. LOL
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (4 November 2008):
 Yeah I agree with Kuroneko I'm not okay with the thought of being a mistress either, and I think a lot of ladys feel the same. Don't judge all females on what a few do, because we're not all like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Well not every girl is okay with being the mistress or even the idea of a mistress...I would say that some women have certain intentions...say for instance...if she likes a man but he's already married...she will continue to see him..becuase some woman like to think that they can change a man..or convince him to somehow leave his wife..which almost never happens...so they have ulterior motives at times when then decide to become a mistress...some women also likes the drama it brings because they have no life...sad but true...some women do it becuase they want to prove to the wife that their man is a dog.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Well I'm not against it polygamy and not all girls are.
I've been in open relationships, been the other woman and now I'm the woman that wants her man to herself.
The thing is, the girl that you're describing is just a whore.
One thing I've learned is respect what you're walking into.
Some girls, not all, just have to the focus and centre of attention and girls like to have their ego's boosted when they steal men, but these girls don't like to share.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): I understand what you mean but REMEMBER, the mistress are usually in love with the married man, in the end they want the man to leave so they can have him all to themselves.
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reader, Kuroneko +, writes (4 November 2008):
That's funny, because I'm not okay with the thought of being the mistress.
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