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writes:How is it people who are beautiful end up being the ones with most insecurities, even thought there's nothing wrong with them? My best friend who is bloody gorgeous and gets told it by so many people, has more insecurities then anyone would ever think!!?She has dark brown eyes but wears coloured contacts because she feels her own eye colour makes her look dull, she hates the size of her nose and her smile, in fact she wants fuller lips. She wishes she was taller and skinnier. She thinks she's got a horrible shaped figure, she doesn't like her voice and she wishes she had higher cheekbones. Ridiculous right?She seems completely fine when we're with other people and out on evenings or that sort of stuff. Yet when she's getting ready or we have a one on one it's upsetting and shocking how much she is her worst critique!! Like she said she doesn't bring any of it to peoples attention because she'd rather they not knew, incase they haven't noticed it already which makes sense.. Just she's drop dead beautiful and i'm not just saying that, so why can't she see it? Why would someone who looks like her be so insecure and have low self esteem when there's nothing wrong with them?!
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reader, Mummy86 +, writes (10 August 2011):
 no ones totally 100% happy with themselves, male or female its sad because in this day in age normal is seen as boring!most people want to look like a barbie doll you see children as young as 14 with a full face of make-up and a skirt and clothes so revealing its appauling when i grew up i didnt even wear make-up until i was 17 id cover myself up in my tom boy tracksuits and cut my hair short, back then people wernt pressured to look a certain way now days there tanning salons, cosmetic surgery within easy reach, credit, i just hope when my children grow up they are sensible!
sopme people do generally suffer with issues of their appearence maybe you should talk to your friend, try to understand from her point of view good luck x
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (10 August 2011):
All I ask is that:
1) I could have LOTS of tacos.
2) The world will stop stereotyping and judging people.
... but the that's wishful-thinking.
You don't know for sure that the women who are "beautiful" are the ones with the most insecurities. For all you know, it can range from the pretty lady down the street to the soldier with part of his face blown off. Just because many beautiful and gorgeous celebrities are known to be insecure about the way they look, that doesn't mean that every other good-looking person out there is.
"Beauty is skin deep" Just because she's beautiful doesn't mean there is nothing wrong with her or her life. I'm not beautiful but have about as much problems as a girl who is attractive would. I've met pretty girls and boys who have dealt with worse than what I have and it made me realize that just because cartain people have physical traits that are admirable, doesn't mean they're perfect in every way. Perfection doesn't even exist. It's nothing but a waste of space in the dictionary.
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reader, krit  +, writes (10 August 2011):
 quite simple --
because they know that if their beauty for some reason wears off then they will be left with nothing to replace with ....
But since they are used to getting all the attention and compliments they begin to crave for it even more than ever before.
Thats why its always important to have attractive personality before anything else.YOU wont be able to remain all this beautiful for ever but if you have a wonderful personality to fall back upon then you'll never have to struggle to get male attention. GUYS mature little late than girls but when they do they will start to adore you for WHO you are and WHAT you are.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (10 August 2011):
 There's no one person in the world without some sort of insecurity. We all have at least one, and she happens to have many. What you see as beautiful may not be beautiful to her. We all have different opinions on what looks or feels beautiful. Your friend may have low self-esteem or she may not and may just have a simple dislike of her figure. But tell your friend that she is beautiful the way she is and that there's nothing wrong with her. If she objects, then just let her because she'll know that you and everyone else thinks the exact opposite.
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