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writes:helloIt might be I am wrong or I came from mars but it is so tragic to see 11 to 13 years old kids are dating and talking about sexual contact? Where are the families? Why don't they look after their kids?thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): well i am 13 (f) ad i dont think theres anything wrong as long as both ppl agree it and want it. im in kinda similiar situation. i'm seein this guy who is 20 and i admit i was the one, NOT him, who asked if we could have sex. we've been together almost a year n have sex 1 every 2 days. so i think its ok if you and your bf agree and are ready
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): i am a girl (12) dating a boy (16) and we talk about sex but he knows i want to wait till im at LEASt 13. so we just do other stuff so i dont worry about being pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): hello i am 13 dating 14 year old girl. we have kissed but would never do anything sexual until of legal age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): yes i agree this time of year kids of 11 and 14 years old are talking about sex.kids are starting to talk about sex an ddoin it because of the tv music and more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): yes I agree, it does seem to be all kids talk about these days. Plus the media, music, television, internet, etc allows kids to know and understand sex well before they are teens. Add to that kids are looking older than in the past, it seems obvious that they will want to experiment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): it's just because they've learned about sex and there's lots of people talking about around them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): i'm a 12 (girl) and i don't think of being as a kid. me and my boyfriend waited till i was ready to have sex and now when we do its wonderful. i think if you're body is ready for sex you should not be treated like a kid and not be worried about sex, but use protection
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): well, im a girl & im 11. my boyfriends, 11 too. we dont kiss, or makeout. But we both want to. But he hugs my waist in stuff, and like i hug him. We talk about sex, too, but we dont plan on doing it until we're 16.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Well... i eally like this girl and im 11 and shes thireen. I dont think its right to have sex but i no kids who talk bout it all the time! it is a weird thing (im guessing lol) and well im not gonna do it till at least over 18!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): because this is a very dangeros age
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): it's school! in grade five we start learning about sex in class so this is why kids are doing all this crazy stuff
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): weird you have to type "human" in that box..... anyways, I just turned 13 on april 7th (yeah i'm a youngster) I had a childhood friend at the age of 4. She and I have been friends forever. At the age of 10, we talked to eachother about even more serious stuff like relationships. Then a week later, we were dating like real boyfriend and girlfriend and we didnt even know it. My point in that story is, a 13 year old male/female should not date anyone that is at least 6 MONTHS older. If it's like 3 years older, your child is already molested. It is ok if they are within 6 months of age range, but if they are at least 7 months older, make sure you knew this person for over 5 years. (AAAaAAAAAAaAAaAaaaahh!!! finger cramp!! to much typing!!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): I am a 13 year old girl and I talk about sex all the time with my boyfriend and I kiss him and make out with him! so what... but I will not have sex until im 15 16 years old!Having sex isn't illegal until your 18 you can have sex with anyone that's not over 3 years older than you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): I'm 13 yrs old and I have a girlfriend. Hell I talk about sex but I would never do it before I was 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): well I am 12 and I am dating 13 year old girl and kissing her 2morrow so just get a date
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reader, I.miss.yooh  +, writes (6 January 2008):
11-13 is a time where hormones are starting up, purberty is beggining and curiosity is a huge factor. I think its completely normal for kids that age to date, talk about sex and even get horny.. but having sex is a whole different story, not only are they not mature enough to make that decision, its illegal and wrong.Im 15 and not even gonna go there until im 18, teens think their in love but in the end are gonna regret giving up something so precious, then realise they wern't ready/wrong person etc... much love xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): Right I'd like to get some things straight here, I'm a thirteen year old girl myself and how the hell can you blame their parents? I mean it's not the parents fault they want to learn about things, it's only normal. Some people are curious and develop faster then others. I personally think there is nothing wrong with having a boyfriend and 'doing stuff' with them. I think it's up to the person how told they want to wait. It doesn't matter as long as your 100% ready for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): I think it is natural for 12-13 year olds to talk about sex. Dating is great education for them also! Actually having sex, thats different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): Kids aren't different at all. I was horny as hell by the time I was 11 or 12 and all I could think about was wanting to have sex. But that doesn't make it a good idea to start having sex as soon as we have sexual feelings.
Nobody wants to hear this at a young age but it's still just as true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): i am a 12 year old girl and i think about boys alot really kids areb different now
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): yo i am 11 and boys mean the world its not rong we are exploring i have a boy friend! and i have dated from 3rd grade to 5th grade soo far!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): There are millions of virgins in their 20s & 30s and the majority of them don't regret the decision.
It's unfortunate that so many young kids are talking about "the right age" to begin sex as even happening before 18, let along middle-school. The kids think they're acting grownup but eventually they'll realized that they were just brainwashed & taken advantage of at a culture-wide level. The media got to sell a few more crappy products, and the kids were robbed of a more decent-paced emotional development. Great deal.
I don't know where the parents are. (Probably can't be home because they're off earning money to buy their kids a few more of the products that are screwing up the kids' perceptions about life.)
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reader, WOW94  +, writes (6 November 2007):
I think its very wrong 4us 2have sex at this age but i dont think its wrong to date and getting to know each other..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): hey, im 13, turning 14 in 25 days here, and I have had thots about it (at points VERY BAD!!! X( but i have only had one gf in my entire lifetime, and we never pressured each other, so I don't c the problem as long as u wait for at least 5-6 more years to do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): I am 13 years old
A lot of kids these ages are going through puberty, So they might talk about sex, Idk, but I think it's common for the girls to lose virginity at younger ages than boys...
Whats really important is that they know about how to protect themselves in the future, getting pregnant and STD's is not cool when you are only 11-13.
I used to talk about sex with my friends, I still sort of do, But we don't go around having sex with each other, thats a little overboard (actually a lot...)
Im sure many kids, By the age of 13 have already lost their virginity, But they may have just done oral sex or something like that... As long as they used protection it isn't as big a deal, But it usually goes against the state laws, in which case if they get caught (Your a lot likely to get caught if someone gets pregnant, it's like a big Duh you had sex and you didn't use protection or it wasn't adequate enough to stop your pregnancy) they get punished by the parents, or they get locked up for a while...
Some places in africa it's legal to have consensual sex at the age of 12... Some places it's 21, You can't have sex until the legal age of gambling in the US, Then other places it's only legal if your married.
I almost lost my virginity at 11... It would have been a stupid mistake, But I have been educated for a long time, Since 8...
Sex has a lot of dangers, It is not something that kids should be allowed to do, but I'm not sure if they should be locked up for it either...
It's a really controversial thing...
I might be waiting til I get married, Or til Im at least 14, But no one knows the future...
Sex education isn't until 9th grade, right? but kids are already having sex before that in a lot of cases, It's usually the parents job to talk to their kids at a age they think that their kids would be mature enough to handle it...
It's tricky whether you should start educating them younger, or keep it how it is.
If kids are already having sex at 11-13 maybe even younger... then they need to know what pains and pleasures sex can bring, It's far too early for them to be getting sexual diseases and having children when they are children.
Kids are smarter than you think sometimes though, I would know since I am smart, and I'm a kid, lol
If you really wanted to stop kids from having sex at 11-13 you might as well monitor everything else they do, like what they say, who they hang out with, where they go...(If your that control sick... then what they think).. But lets not get too far there...
Parents do look after their kids, but they can't be there all the time, The kids can easily drop by their friends house afterschool, go to a secret place, and even just invite someone over while the parents are gone.
Protection works, but Prevention always works, So maybe shes taking the pill, but what if she or he has an STD, That wont stop it, Condoms are effective if used properly, but many young kids don't know about protection such as condoms yet, If they just manage to stumble into sex, there can be a lot of problems.
Everyone has different opinions, And some of what I have said would be... very inappropriate, But I'm just trying to get a few different points across, It's your decision on how you will treat this issue.
Dating is a completely different thing, dating may just be "going out" or something like that, they may just hang out or talk, kiss sometimes, it's like girlfriend and boyfriend, there is nothing wrong with that, they are just developing their social skills for later on in life when Dating is much more crucial.
Sex is not really justifiable, But Dating is Fine, I've had a girlfriend when I was 6 years old...
Should I ever have sex, I'll use protection, Until I get married, and me and her have a long relationship and that we don't have any sexual diseases, then maybe she can use the pill or something.
Share your thoughts on this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): im a 13 year old boy and i am going through puberty so i think its natural for kids my age to talk about sex because most of the time there not going to do anything i have a girlfriend and we talk about sex but all we do is kiss
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): Hi, I am a 13- year old, and would like to give my advice on this. I would like to start off to say, that I am JUST now starting to date(im in 8th grade b-day was june 21st), I do have sexual feelings and think about it, but I never would think of having sex at my age, I wait until I am married. I haven't yet went on a date, but I have asked a girl out, and hope to be going out soon, Parents, just let them go on a date, it will not kill them, if you think they did something wrong, get them tested by a doctor occording to what you think. Let them learn how to interact with others of the opposite gender.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): im 13 (boy) and i have only dated 1 person b4 and i still want 2 have companion ship buy im not pressured and its normal me and my m8s never pressure we support each other like proper friends so this is all natrual 4 us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): hi, im 12 years old and i hadn't actually had a relationship till year 7, im in year 8 at the moment and i only hang round with boys...i dont think its wrong to have a boyfriend at the age of 11-13 but i know what u mean by the talking of sexual contact.. infact i've had a few of the boys i hang round with come up to me askin if they could feel me in places and show me their penis's (i'd just like to say i turned down all offers) but its human nature to make mistakes and isn't a relationship another form of socialising..? so what im trying to say is you adults probably did stupid stuff when u were our age and now its our turn...let us have relationships and learn when 2 say no, enough is enough. i've had about 12 boy friends since the begining of year 7 but i've learned how to maintain a good relationship and now me and my boyfriend have been dating for 11 months =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Well I'm 13 and yeah people say they're "dating" but ost of them are to scared to hold hands. Its not parents fault it's just peer pressure. And if I like a guy I would just hang out with I wouldn't say we're dating. And most kids are too mature to do stupid stuff like drugs and drinking and smoking. Some kids let their parents find out that they smoke just so they can smoke weed, which cures cancer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): Hiya for all the parents sayinooh i no my teenage girls dont do this how do u no they dont do it??I mean if u asked a 13 year old girl if she was having sex there not likely 2 turn around and sayYep sure am are they :S even if they wer and its ok that 13 year olds are dating and things u gotta grow up sumtymeand if they want 2 they shud be able 2 date not have sex tho
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Hear. Hear. I find it quite worrying..and its not just the dating it's the alcohol and smoking that i see so many 13yr olds doing!
My sisters 14 and has had about 10 times as many boyfriends (if you can call them that) as I have, and I'm 19.
It's really not right and she doesn't see anything wrong with it and all her friends are doing it so she doesn't see where shes going wrong.
Some of the things they talk about I find shocking. And they all kiss each other all the time guys and girls.
They have not had any sex education ... is this maybe part of the problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): Hi. I want to first say that I am a thirteen-year-old girl myself and I agree with you. But not all of us are like that. Basically, in every school there arent mean girls and geeks; there are all different types of clique's. Every clique pretty much has a set age that you can start dating at (although it's not anything like clubs. And the set ages arent announced, it's kind of a thing you just know) The sluts, rich kids, and stupid kids, are the ones who talk and do things like that. The other kids (the one's adults and teachers respect for their common sense knowing that this is innapropriate) dont. Basically, respectable dating starts in high school. Just dont think all of us are like that!! I know I'm not. I'm an all A student, in National Junior Honor society, editor in chief of my school newspaper, first chair playing violin in orchestra, an a junior volunteer at my local hospital. And I'm not like that. I know that it's wrong, and the people I hang out with do too. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): Why are you all worrying about it? I'm 14 years old and not a virgin. People need to grow up
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reader, tasha2007  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 I know what you mean! iv been looking on here and have been shocked at what ive been seeing! Im only 15 but when i was 11 i know i wasnt even thinking about sex well...not like that.
I have a 12year old neice and she has been growing up far to quickly, i find pictures of her that she sends to me to put on her bebo of her lying on her bed half naked!.
Personally i blame all these music videos of 'beautiful' women dancing around with short shorts and belly tops!.
Kids grow up far to fast these days...=/
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): I have no clue, I am 13 myself, but I am not "as they call Mature" as they are, i am not into that stuff, some dont even have families, maybe thats it
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): i am just an 11 year old.um... i dont think many kids would do that though cause in my class every one says EWW to just the word "SEX" so i doubt they want to do it either......
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): To add on to my last note I dont think under aged sex is alright wait till your 16 then move to las vages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Im 18, I had a girlfreind when I was 12.And talking about sex is natural.13 is where I hit puiberty.If you dont want your kid to talk about normal things that evry body dose home school him/her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007): i am 12 years of ages and i think that parents keep there kid/kids from making their own mistakes, if you let them make their own mistakes they will learn from it and never do something stupid like that agin!!!!!!! trust me i been there and done that and you been there and done something stupid like that too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): Yes I'm 11 and I'm tired of hearing my friends say " hey you want to date with me. These kids parents are unfit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): i know i'm 11 my mom talks to me i'm not having sex until i'm married
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): well i have a question i am 15 year old girl but i like a 13 year old who acts very mature is it illiegal to do that
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): kids are talking like this because they think its cool and there so keen to date
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): Because we feel like it. Nuff said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): I dont agree. I think it is ok that the children are like this. They probobly get all this stuff from older children they hang around/ or video clips on internet/ or myspace, aol instant messager. If you dont like this behavior i suggest you block things like facebook and put parental controls on the internet and tell them not to hang around older kids. But around there age I would think they would know what sex is and they are entering puberty at 4-5th grade. I have a little sister and when she was 5 she wanted a bra...not because of sex (she doesnt no wut it is) but because she think it looks so called "cool" LOL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): 11-13 year olds are talking about dating because many get their first boyfriend/girlfriend around those ages. As for why they talk about sexual contact is because between the ages of 11-13 they learn about it at school.
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reader, home_land +, writes (30 March 2007):
home_land is verified as being by the original poster of the question hello, and thank you very much for taking part of shairing this subject and i have no kids but i was one,and i have learned that if i want to plant a rose in my garden .i have to think of all the ways to keep it alive and take care of it, and protect it from any harm ,in my garden i am the one wh is resposible for my own rose , and if i want it to be a nice and strong rose i have to give it the time and offert.and once that rose strong enough it well have enough thorns to protect it self,man and woman they are the basic of Socity and they are the Socity in small form for their babys and kids ,and the big form of Socity is what is the rsolt that made by small Socitys,
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (30 March 2007):
 I don’t think its all on the parents. Parents get blamed for everything these days. Society needs to stand up and bloody well take the blame.
The way we live today is how we build our children’s future. Instead of pointing the finger why don’t you do something about it… too many people are quick to wag their tongs, but more often than not don’t do a dam thing about it.
These kids are hitting puberty, they need to be educated better by schools, society and parents… everybody plays a part. Once everybody stops placing the blame… the more can be done about it!!!!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (30 March 2007):
 Excellent post by Julliette Elise.
Unfortunately it does seem that more and more 13-15 years olds seem to think that sex and dating is common place and they havent even begun a life experience yet!
I wouldnt say it all begins at home, as often the parents do not know! Its all about peer pressure, what they see and hear. And believe it or not Online! The internet has alot of things to answer for.. but thats another issue!
Plus I do tend to think that some sites, maybe ones like this, do give them more info than they need! Im not saying its all bad, but alot are led so easily and see what the others are doing so to speak and want to be like that too...
I would also add that some of the posts on here are clearly the odd 13-15 year wasting time and getting replies for a laugh... not all! as some do genuinely need help and I will always offer it, but the odd one or two are just simply playing games, while others truly are growing up way before thier time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): Hi, yes I agree with you, but its not all the familes fault, we have to remember media plays a big part in it aswell. But i do agree that family's, and parents should lead by example and be more observent of there children.
it disgusts me when I walk around a clothing store and walk past the childrens section and see thongs for 12 year olds and padded bras for 4 year olds. it disgusted me when a friend of mine told me that she brought her 5 year old daughter a barbie music/dance dvd and on it was a music clip of a women singing in the nude and very erotically (she was absolutely horrified when she seen it).
mini skirts, lacy tops, c through clothing, its just getting out of hand, when will the media just let kids be kids, its crazy.
its Extremely bothering when you know that 12 years olds talk about sex like there adults and in some cases have had more sexually interaction then some adults.
The goverment have to put there foot down and protect children, the other night at about 7pm, i was watching televsion and a televsion ad came up one the screen, it was a company trying to sell ring tones and mobile phone screen savers, what was bothering about this was that they were trying to sell screen savers of 18yr old girls or younger in tiny clothes and some on thongs moving around erotically, and then down the bottom of the screen in tiny almost unreadable print, it said "bill payers must be 14 years or older" 14 years old? wow this suprised me that the goverment can allow pornographic material to be purchased by 14 year olds, and also the fact that this material can be advertised during prime time tv rather then after mid night when most children are asleep is very bothering.i think the media need to stop with the hole "sex sells" additude and be abit more creative with there advertising.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): Hi,
As I witnessed, having children growing up in the Netherlands, who were Canadian, attending an American school, it is a small segment of that age group that is sexually active. I remember rumours when I was in school in the sixties about certain girls "putting out" at that age too, mind you, that means there were guys the same age sleeping with them. I think there have been people who were active at that age sexually ad inifinitum. I don't think that this is the standard of most of western society, it would be precocious to think that the western world is that way from a few views and attitudes. Most people lose their virginty at a later age. I'm sure you are going to get a lot of different opinions on lack of parental controls, but, sometimes lowering the boom, or saying you can't do this pushes some teenagers in the opposite direction - youth being infallible and smarter than their parents, of course. I'm sure that music videos, clothing styles, song lyrics and lack of parental control regarding ALL of these things plays a part, but when You are that age, you try Very hard to find out the stuff that your parents won't tell you, regardless. The western world is just now looking at the pervasence of child abuse and accepting that it is, in fact a problem. God knows how this has affected some young people in ALL societies. President Clinton did not help when he said that blow jobs are not sexual intercourse, and therefore he "did not have sexual relations with that woman". Frankly, I think that his blatant lie had a bit of an effect on what people thought. The fact that young girls feel they can participate in this BEFORE having sexual intercourse is often mentioned by young girls that are sexually active. One of the biggest problems my daughter faced in the Netherlands, however, was by some of the immigrant groups residing there. There are several different groups that sequestered the women in their own societies and the young men would go out at night and accost the "American" girls because they thought they were "loose" for being out at night. As a parent to those boys, I would have lowered the boom and have explained to those boys that it is not our position to judge, only God's. What group accepts their young men going out and accosting women? What was even worse, if the boys that my daughter and her friends were with defended the girls from having their breasts grabbed or a hand between their legs, the immigrant group would use their cell phones to call ten more people and beat the boys up. One boy at her school was beaten so badly that he lost the vision in one eye. I think THAT is tragic. I wish families were much more communicative about sex education, and more importantly relationship education, at a young age. I think a lot of families do their children a great disservice by not telling them about the facts of life at a younger age. I don't think that we are "beyond redemption" and that our society "is going to hell in a handbasket" (and Socrates or Aristotle were the first to bitch about our youth). I worry more that education is limited and should be something that we are striving to make accessable to EVERYONE of BOTH SEXES, EVERYWHERE around the world. As parents, it is our responsibility to teach our children to protect others from harm. As parents, we have to teach our children to respect other peoples differences. Parents need to talk to their children about sex and relationships and help them navigate the difficulties that we all have to deal with as adults, regardless of any biases we may have, to ensure that they will have a good understanding of what it takes to be a responsible adult in ANY country throughout the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): how dare you blame parents for 11-13yr olds talking of dating and sexual contact?no parents are to blame for what is natural behaviour from these children,whom are maturing and starting puberty,whom most of them are scared of how their bodies are changing,growing up can be very traumatic for some,but of course you must have been born your age,how soon you forget what you once yourself experienced
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reader, JulietteElise  +, writes (30 March 2007):
 I agree with you completly.... i am amazed and unsettled by many of the things people ask on here who are so younge. I think a lot of it has to do with pressure, it seems like many younge girls think that the only way they could keep a guy is to have sex with him, which is horrible for any person who only will be with you if you have sex or be sexual is a complete jerk and not a person who truley loves you. I am also astounded by the younge children saying things like.. ..."well... we've been going out for 5 weeks so i guess i should have sex with him..." and so forth. I have often wanted to ask the same question you are asking, and it makes me so very, very sad inside to see the world these ones are growing up in.
i think the media may have helped in this "numbing" of morals, though i'd hate to think i'm some type of right-winged nut, or an old granny already (i'm only 21!!!). I just feel that sex and sexuality have become so commonplace in mediea... tv, movies, songs... etc... that these kids, who are only just going through puberty, see it as being allright, and the "cool" thing to do... people these ages are extremmmllly aware of their "standing" amoung their peers and girls esspically seem to want to always be in the popular cliche, and the guys don't want to be losers either and somehow think its wrong and the end of the world if they havent lost their virginity by age 18. ...sure... hormones might be running rampent at puberty... but just because your body is learning to "work" does not mean its mature enough.... what i mean by this is that females who are just getting their periods and thus could become pregnant are NOT fully mature enough to have a child (mentally is an obvious here, but i mean physicaly), for their uterous and cervix are not yet ready to support anouther lifeform and birth, and girls will keep haveing miscarriages... and the more misscarriges one has, the more likely it is through the repetive damage that they may never beable to have a baby full term someday..... and it DEFFITLY sickens me when i hear of these younge pre-teens (and even teens) who are so dead-set on haveing a child of their own..... it makes no sense at all... they cant afford it at the very lest, and they deffitly would not want to give up the rest of their social life for 18 years to raise the child (and most likely the girl will be alone in this).
besides the media.... i'm thinking they just arent told/taught clearly enough of all the problems and dangers of sex, esspicaly at such a younge age. What is most disturbing is the huge physcological toll they are reaping.... i think this should deff. be taought in schools along with sex education... the fact of lowerd self estems, what love really is, etc. And self esteam does seem to also play a big part in this... they just arent confident enough in who they are or what love is supposed to be. they think that to show love, u have to have sex..... but sex is often not even done out of love, and i doubt very much at these ages even half of the sexuality between kids even are. Also, many kids don't even see blowjobs as a big deal... and though i aggree its not the same as "real sex" i think its actualy much more an intimite thing. Its sad to think younge girls are doing this too.... weither because they think they have to to keep their bf, to be popular, or even worse, because they want a guy to like them. i know i am putting a lot of the complainging on the girls here.... but it is because i veiw girls, as being the ones who have the vagina, as haveing the biggest say (unless they are raped of course). It just seems like a paradise to all these younge boys to get bjs and sex so easily.... but it think its probably doing a lot of harm to them as well.... ESSPICALLY since it dousnt give them a reason to respect females, or even to be faithfull in realtionships (i see these as huge future problems for this generation). one problem is already being had in that the 15 to 17 year old crowd seems to just "hook up" which is to be sexual... with no strings. this makes me a bit worried....
i don't know why.... maybe they think their being "grown up" ... everyone going through puberty and these ages act out, try to push bounderies, and try to prove to the world (and themselves) that they are old enough for everything and anything, and know everything. i just think it was better when girls did this by blasting music and trying to wear too much make-up. so maybe.... maybe its part of some kind of phase... just horribly influenced by a perverse mediea and society.
i know.... or at least i'm hopeing... that not all children are like this (sorry, but your're a kid even at 13... 15 and 16 being more teenage... but adult not being till 20 in my opinion since 18 still has the word teen in it... lol). And i'm thinking, based on patterns of behavior, that once this generation has grown up more and have families of their own, that they will be more strict with their own children (or at least better teach and inform them) since they will realize it is too younge (mentally esspically) and not want their own children to be like that.
however... in the meantime... since i am here to give advice i will continue to give advice, even if i think the people i am adviseing are too younge.... though i always like to at least add in this part of my belifes:
"that noone should have sex or become sexual in any ways unless they are truley ready too and are able to handle and accept any and all consequeses of such actions. This includes not only possably getting stds, but the possibility of haveing a child who you will have to raise, and afford to raise, untill they have turned at least 18 years old."
also... at least i think, one shouldn't have sex or be sexual unless it is with someone you deeply love and loves you back, and have been with a long time and want to be with a long time. I know for a fact that males can and WILL wait for sex if they love you (and without cheating) because my first bf and i dated for 4 years, all of highschool, and we didn't have sex untill after we graduated because that is what i wanted to do. thus, if soemone loves you, they WILL wait.
as for the families and why they don't look after their kids..... i bet ya most of them don't even know about it.... esspcially since they don't think people this younge would get so corrupt.
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