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*airhalflin
writes: So, me and my ex were texting each other...things were going great...we were joking around and then he said, "hey, well my sister told me that she found out that I fingered you." And then I freaked out because his sister is my friend...and now everything is going to crap. My ex is upset and now his sister is upset! Damn it! It just can't get sweeter! Like, who cares?! Why the hell would someone be upset over something happened in the past? Get over it! Now I don't know what to do...my ex is upset...now my friend is upset and I don't know how to fix things.
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reader, Midge +, writes (1 April 2007):
Good for you! Just see where it ends up, thats all you can do.
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reader, fairhalflin +, writes (31 March 2007):
fairhalflin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMe and my ex started talking again...
Everything seems to be okay.
We're closer than ever...
And now...I think I'm okay.
I still have that strange feeling when I'm with him.
I dunno...just when you know they're thinking of something. That sort of feeling...but whatever. I'm not gonna dwell on it...if I like him. Fine.
If he likes me...fine...
Lets just see how this story unwinds itself...
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reader, Midge +, writes (30 March 2007):
You are right, if it happened in the past, it should stay there.
The fact that your friend, his sister, is upset should be set aside for the moment. However, how she found out should be investigated. Any form of sexual contact between two concenting adults, should stay between those two people, and only those two people.
Now, the question, what has your friend got to be upset about? She may be his sister, but she doesnt control what the both of you do/did. Its over, in the past, and you should tell your friend in a nice way, if she brings it up, that it doesnt concern her since she wasnt in the relationship. Besides, friends are supposed to support one another!
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