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writes:Hi. I really need some advice here. I've gotten myself into a bad situation. I've been dating my boyfriend for awhile (we are both 18), and when I first met his parents there was a spark between his father and I. Now here we are six months later, and his father and I have started sleeping together. I love my boyfriend...but his father makes me feel safe, taken care of, and most importantly beautiful. I don't know why I'm doing this. I really need some advice. What should I do?
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reader, single gal  +, writes (20 April 2010):
end the relationship with both your boyfriends,
how would you feel if your boyfriend slept with your mum.
its the same situation.
his father is a pervert
i know we find ourselves in weird situations, but think of what you are doing to your bf s family.
break it up. NOW
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): do you want to be known as the girl who slept with your bf's dad? NO! jeez i mean no girl wants to be known as a slut in high school or something and you sure as hell dont want people knowing this. no guy would want to be with you after that!!! stop it now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): Stop it right away!!!!!!
He is betraying his own son, how do you expect him not to betray YOU, a stranger, one day???
Just think about it, a father who steels his own son'e girl is NOT a normal person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): Hi,
We think you have to stop with this straight away, Your not only hurting your boyfriend but also his mother, you obviously dont have real feelings for your boyfriend if your sleeping with his father.
You need to come clean, deal with what happens and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): why is it that everyone always recomends lieing to people tell the boyfriend se he knows just how much of a horible person his father truely is
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): I really don't think this is a good situation. Anyone can get into a problem that they never would have envisaged and that is what you have done.
You cannot continue with your boyfriend after what's happened with your boyfriend's dad. You will have to leave them both. If your bf loves you, he is going to be devastated and no doubt you will feel desperate too to have to leave him but if he knew the truth, everyone is right, he is going to feel cheated by you and his dad. You can handle the pain because it will be short-lived, if painful, but he has to know his dad for the rest of his life and their relationship may never be repaired.
I don't know how hard it will be for you but the best thing has to be for you to fall on your sword.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): STOP SLEEPING WITH DAD. I think you and your boyfriend should break up as this will give you the physical space you need away from dad. There is no way you can ever have a future with your boyfriend now. I would not tell your boyfriend..it will cause too much pain for so many. Sometimes the truth is not always the best option. That was a pretty selfish thing you did, and if keeping silent about it eats you up inside then maybe thats what you deserve for your stupidity.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 April 2010):
 If you would behave yourself with a modicum of honor and integrity then you wouldn't need sex with some old fart to make you feel beautiful. Beauty comes from within. Once this shit hits the fan you really will need bunches of old men to feel beautiful. But until you decide to shape up, do yourself a favor and stay away from retirement villages and nursing homes.
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reader, advice angel  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 you need to sort this out,SURELY YOU CAN NOT SLEEP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND'S DAD!!
although you may not want to do this,you have to tell his dad,i am seeing your son,this needs to stop,if your booyfriend ever found out.what would happen?
think about what your doing and the actions your going to take if you need any help just email me x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): The damage has already been done , so please end the relationship with your boyfriend and his father as soon as possible. If you care for your boyfriend you should think about him and his feeling and not your own. Please don't tell him what happened this will only hurt him, embarrass him, and ruin his relationship with his father. Your life will go on while his life will never be the same. Futhermore, his dad is the lowest of the low, what kind of man sleeps with his sons girlfriend. What's done is done you can't erase that, but you can count this as a lesson learned. Do what's best for your boyfriend and start over with the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): there's only one thing u can do. leave both of them. what if u get pregnant??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Walking away would solve all the problems. It would be weird if the three of you can accept the situation.
If you still love your b/f , you should stop sleeping with his dad to correct the situation. You will have to keep this secret from your b/f.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): lol awesome story!!
but never ever tell your BF about this..otherwise you'll destroy their family, i don't think your bf will ever be in touch with u or his dad, after hearing this..
dear, his father is as your dad's age..don't do this. it'll ruin you and your bf and his family..
i guess it'll better to find another BF. it'll take time like a month or two but it will be best for you
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 What's your relationship like with your own father? If it's not good maybe you are just looking for a father figure?? You probably should break it off with both these men and distance yourself from them both and sort your feelings out before someone gets really hurt. Your boyfriend will be devastated and so will his mother when this gets discovered.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Stop sleeping with this old man, and break it off with your boyfriend.
At the moment your letting an old man use you, and your lying and hurting a young guy who dosen't deserve it.
Cut contact with all of them, before the whole thing blows up in your face and your left ashamed when the whole world finds out.
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reader, Dree23 +, writes (4 April 2010):
you should immediately stop this! you're going to tear a family apart. and do you honestly think that this older man is going to want to be with you or just wants to have sex with something young? think about what you are doing and the people involved. you will be hurting an entire family. it is a little whorish so you should figure out where u want to be. if you think the dad would want to actually be with you in a relationship then pursue if you think you should. if not you should just break up with his son then. you've already tainted your relationship with your boyfriend by sleeping with his dad. listen to your conscience if u have one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): Dont tell your boyfriend because it will destroy him. If you love him that much like you say you do then end things with his dad. If you truly love your boyfriend then you would feel safe, taken care of and beautiful regardless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): personally i think its unfair on all of you in this situation - i think you need to think about who it is you really want and act from there, even if that means ending up alone. You are young and the relationships are both young too - i think you need to figure you out and what you want before involuing others in your life etc.
People here may critise you but to be honest, we have all gotten involued with people we shouldn't have or done things we may later regret - its your life and we cannot judge it. I recommend doing what is best for you and sadly that is the best advice i can offer. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): THIS WILL NOT END WELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First off stop sleeping with your boyfriend's dad.
Secondly you need to tell your boyfriend what's going on and go from there. Yes he'll probably be hurt but he deserves to know the truth!
And i'm also concerned about the reason you're doing this, from what it sounds like, you're looking for a father figure. but just in the wrong place. What is your relationship with your father like? that may give you a clue why you're doing this.
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reader, TheDarkDoc  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 You totally ruined all your chances with your boyfriend who you LOVE !! Do you have any idea how much that 'll hurt him, also can you imagine how YOU caused alot of extensive damage to his relationship with his father ?!!! Also the relationship between his parents is another thing to add on the list !!! And you LOVE him ??!!! Wow
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