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writes:I have been dating a man for 6 months. Everything has been great. He's very sweet, very gentle, and would do anything for me. I find myself pushing him away within the past few weeks, distancing myself for no reason....picking small fights, turning nothing into something. I am stressed at the moment with work and school but do not know if that is what's causing it. I love this man very much and do not want to push him so far that he will leave me one day. What can I do to stop this behavior of mine before it is too late? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 March 2014):
 You don't really like this fine guy. Move on.
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reader, Sensible Alice  +, writes (15 March 2014):
 I can only toss a few theories into the pot as to what is causing you to behave like this. Is this a recurrent thread with your relationships? Do you push men away when they get too close? Or is it that you're bored with this man, perhaps not as attracted to him as you once were and feel a little guilty about it? Do you perhaps yearn for more, perhaps even a more exciting relationship. Sweet and gentle and loving are all fine attributes, but if you're craving exciting and daring and bad and it's just not there, then you may feel frustrated and hit out at him in this way, perhaps subconsciously hoping he will leave and thus saving you the pain of having to break it off. To be fair to this man, you need to try to determine what is causing your behaviour, whether it be stress or any of the above. Give yourself the space you need to work things out in your own mind. Avoid contact with him on the days you think you might be unkind or pick a fight. Remember that relationships run their courses, especially when we're young and the person we might madly love at eighteen is possibly not the one we'd choose at thirty. Having said that, there are plenty of people who've loved the same person from their teenage years until old age. Best of luck.
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reader, TylerSage +, writes (15 March 2014):
 From what I understand girls like when guys bring drama in their lives and excite them. Maybe you feel a tad bit bored by him so as a result you subconsciously try to get more out of him so you can see different sides of his personality.Being kind, sweet ad gentle is a good thing, but it's kind of like going to bed at 7pm - not very fun. I assume you want to see more of his raw manliness - the assertive, no-nonsense, "Quiet woman!!" side of him.It's understandable, yes but not all men are wired the same. Some men, like myself are just kind and gentle. But I have grown to understand why women require a man to exert such traits. I personally would prefer to be told if I seem "too nice" but girls sadly don't do that. Maybe you could suggest some fun activities during your free time the two of you could do or just say tell him although there's no easy way too say it.You have a problem in your relationship, that's why you're here. Either try and fix it now or it may become a bigger problem down the road. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2014): Dear OP, You should be thankful and grateful you have someone so kind and sweet. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence as some would think.
It is very difficult finding a person who loves you and treats you right. You don't want to have to go the route of being with someone abusive or someone who doesn't respect you to realise what you do have.
Take a deep breath. Step back and look at what you DO have. You may realise it in time.
All the best..
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2014): You need to grow up. Maturity takes time. To be honest, even at my age, im 27 now i am still very childish. I love being childish. However its not really good. We will really lose the one we love if we will not change. So you have to change your ways and be better in treating him right. So you can him for keeps.
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