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writes:i need help ASAP.I've been with this guy for 2 weeks. i havent known him long and have a feeling it may of been a bit fast. when im with him its fine, a bit quiet sometimes as we dnt have that many of the same interests i've recently realised. But when im at home i cant help but think about breaking up. I've told my bf how im feeling and he says it will go away just give it time. But im not so sure. I mean if im thinking of breaking up already that cant be good. Also i've noticed im not really that attracted to him physicallly as shallow as it seems. Im so confused i dunno what to do or what i want. If i break up with him im worried i may regret it and ruin my chance. I have also got to know some of his mates girls and boys and its likely i'll loose them too. any ideas what i should do?? please help i actually feel like my head is about to split open. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): from the second i asked my boyfriend out, i thought id made the wrong decision. i thought, ive asked out my best friend and i cant turn around now nad say, sorry its a mistake. ive now learned we have hardly anything in common.ive been with this guy for a year and 4 months. i gave it a chance and its grew. sometimes its hard as we dnt have the same interests in things but i love him mostly and he feels the same way. nothing could be any better. i think you worry too much. ive worried alot during these times n ive though of breaking it off, but trust me its worth it in the end. you say u dont no him well, stay with him and find out. give it a chance and stay possitive. Hes in the same situation if youve spoken to him and he wants to give it a try. let him. dont continue taking breaks at all, THAT is messing him about, u need to commit for a while. wot if u break it off and stay friends, then u find out hes a great guy? - that is my suggestion. but if u are SO completely sure u cant be with him, if he annoys u with his habbits and u hate his interestes and find it intolerable, if u dnt find im attractive - break it off.i can only hope u read this before making your decision.reply soon and let me know how u get on.
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reader, The Fonz +, writes (16 February 2007):
 I think you are probably right to end things with him, for both your sakes. At least you are sincere enough and caring enough to do the right thing so early on.
It's not a nice feeling when we feel we are being messed about by the one we really like, or love.
I think you should both take a break from each other, then maybe the feelings can rekindle themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for your help. I just spent the afternoon with him, hoping that it would make it easier to decide what to do. But it didnt, im still unsure about him. He's also getting quite upset and feels im messing him about so i think im going to end it soon. Its unfair on him.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (16 February 2007):
Well, i would say to give it a while. At least to make his friends yours aswell so you have a better chance of keeping them. You will only know how you feel about breaking up when you have broken up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): If your not into it your not into it...your better off breaking it off now than a couple months down the road when he is head over heals in love with you. Especially if you don't have similar interests. Go with your gut.
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reader, wvgirl  +, writes (16 February 2007):
 I went on a blind date a few months ago. I saw him before he saw me, and my first reaction was "omg, he's ugly, let's go". (I'd brought a friend to help scope him out ;).) But I decided to go through with it. He was nervous and didn't have much personality, and I couldn't imagine anything ever happening between us. Two months later, we're both much more comfortable around each other, and I've realized how funny, smart, and beautiful he is.So give it some time. Two weeks isn't long enough to really know someone.
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reader, kenny +, writes (16 February 2007):
 You have only been together two weeks. If you are not sure whether you want to split up with him or not, stick it out for another couple of weeks, then access the situation then.
If you come to the conclusion that he is not for you, do tell him your feelings right away, if you don't you will be leading him on.
As the relationship has only been two weeks there is no reason why you can't both have an amicable split and still see each other as friends. this way you will not lose your new friends either.
good luck x
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