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reader, Mr Doctor  +, writes (2 July 2010):
I think you should think together to have safe sex... so you can do it both...
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (1 July 2010):
Both
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (1 July 2010):
 BOTH. Because then you are equally responsible. Both having them means you will never be caught short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): This reeally depends on what you decide with your sexual partner. If you have a set sexual partner and are on the pill as a female, but want an additional form of birth control or STD protection, I feel like it should be his responsibility to get the condoms.. As getting birth control is a process in itself, so that really shouldn't be asking too much. You are both taking responsibility equally, as it should be.If you are a single, sexually active female, I would recommend always having condoms available. Never rely on a spontaneous sexual partner or a brand new sexual partner to be prepared for what YOU want or need.. And nothing kills the mood more than a condom run last minute by either party. I also recommend you always use a condom if you fall under this group as well, even if you are on some form of alternative stable birth control. Babies aren't the only thing you have to worry about.. And if you are a single male who is sexually active, always use condoms as well. Even if they are on birth control. A new or spontaneous partner may have things you don't want to share. They may not want to share that they are a walking herpes machine if they know they can get some condom-free sex and that you won't infect them with a newborn. Many people are often ashamed of sexual diseases or even don't know of them (not everyone shows symptoms- but just because they don't doesn't mean you won't) and I've known too many people lured into the trap of "oh, birth control is involved? no condom then for me!" as generally condom-free sex is preferred as far as sensations go.Oh, and this also goes for homosexual males. ;] Condoms, condoms, condoms! You have no idea what nasty things you can still get, even if pregnancy is in no way involved.Okay, go have fun. :P
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 July 2010):
 Definitely both buy them. I usually split my GF's pill or other contraception with her too. It is for both of us after all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): Both of you should, better be safe than sorry
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 July 2010):
 Both buy condoms. You don't want to be pregnant do you?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (1 July 2010):
 As Soon567 said, there are plenty of places out there that give them away for free. They may not be ribbed for her pleasure or anything like that... but they at least may have different colors. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): Take turns
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): Take turns, you both should buy them
NightFairy
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reader, justagurl +, writes (1 July 2010):
he should have some at his house and she should have some at her house
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 July 2010):
 When pigs fly
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): It doesnt matter who buys them as long as someone has them. it isnt a single person's responsibility, its both of your responsibility to be prepared. So my advice is that both of you should buy them so at least one of you has them.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 July 2010):
 Well, I think every smart woman would have a supply of her own, just in case. Same goes for every smart guy.
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reader, darkeyedgirl  +, writes (1 July 2010):
I dated a guy for SIX MONTHS and he never bought a single condom. And condoms are expensive. And when I finally brought it up his excuse was that it was far less embarrassing for a woman to buy the condoms. Lame excuse.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I believe that the men should buy the condoms at LEAST 50% of the time, if not more.
Think of it as offsetting all the costs of the make up and clothing and hair products you employ as prophylactics to the process of love making.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 July 2010):
I think it's a damn shame that boys and girls need them. In an ideal world only adults would be having sex.
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reader, yellow913 +, writes (1 July 2010):
I agree with TasteofIndia. My boyfriend boys the condoms and I purchase birth control. (:
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 July 2010):
It would be nice if you took turns, because you are both responsible. But in this world, you have to look out for yourself, so ALWAYS have spares for yourself. You don't want to end up forgetting and making a mistake.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (1 July 2010):
 It makes since that you take turns. You're both responsible for birth control and keeping yourself safe. The only reason I can see not to take turns is if you're on the pill (or the like) for pregnancy and you also need condoms for STI protection. In that case, then if you're buying your birth control, he should handle the condoms. That's my opinion, at least!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): He should buy the condoms. Will he buy your pill if you will take it?
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