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*njli
writes:I'm married but start loving to anish my boyfriend.My husband also love me but i never like his attitude and arguments ? I can't divorced with my husband because our family not permitted this they try to solve the problem between me and my husband but there is no problem.what i do ? i don't want to lose anish because i love so much and i think my life is happy with anish.what i do ? plz reply soon
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reader, caribe  +, writes (30 March 2010):
Did you get married at gun point??
If you agreed to be bound to someone in marriage why is there a question between your lover or your husband??
I mean; you signed an agreement!! Now take responsibility of your actions. If you did not love the man you married then you should not have married him in the first place. As far as your current husband's "attitude" believe me...I guarantee you that you will always have problems with your husband and if you leave and marry your lover, at some point you will not like his attitude either. Hey, but maybe by then you will already also have someone else lined up.
The solution to you is, GROW UP!!
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 Your husband doesnt deserve to be lied to and cheated on.
You claim there isnt a problem in your marriage, but surely all this doubt and deception is a fairly big problem?
One of them has to leave the picture before you can pursue a proper relationship with either. Your choice is to end things with Anish and work on your marriage, or to leave your husband so he can find love with a faithful woman and you and Anish can see where your relationship goes. What you are doing at the moment is horribly deceitful and you need to take responsibility and end it, now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): you should go with the boyfriend. Give the poor guy you married a chance to be with someone faithful and give the boyfriend the chance to get his heart broken so he'll know how your husband felt after you get tired of him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 Are you sure there is no problem between you and your husband ?
From your perspective ,maybe not .
You are married to him and divorce is out of question but your love is not for your husband but for Anish.
How can you love somebody who is not your husband when you are married . Is that not cheating?
Do you really have a choice ?
You don't have a choice unless you can divorce your husband.
If you cannot divorce, elope is the only way out.
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reader, joe26  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 agree with all the readers above and, 'domo kun' is absolutely right about it. you shouldn't cheat on him behind his back emotionally. You betrayed him, and he still doesn't know your dirty secrets between you and anish, the face is that he still trusts you and loves you eventhough theres little bitterness in your marriage.. who doesn't, you need to find a way to sort it out can't always take it for granted. But you didn't put your effort to fix it up nor showd your willingness. Cheating and finding another love is the last option to seek for to rebound...now, the bottm line is just sit down with him and tell him the truth bluntly, do not keep bottled up inside of you..otherwise it will get too late for you both esp its not fair for him coz he deserves someone who faithful and loving towards him.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (29 March 2010):
You'll never be able to sort out your marriage whilst Anish is around. Maybe you should concentrate on trying to sort out your marriage first? Perhaps your husband and you can resolve your problems and live a happy marriage together.
If you've tried fixing your marriage, but it still doesn't work, then you should consider divorce. Then you can move on, and be ready for a relationship with someone different to your husband to spend your life with.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (29 March 2010):
 You just can't chop and change husbands just because things get a little bothersome. You must have loved him once, find out what's going wrong and try to fix it. Drop the boyfriend immediately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Well, you need to leave your husband if you're not happy with him. You're cheating on him and if you don't like your husbands ways then leave him before you get in too deep with 'anish' which will cause alot of trouble.
You're already sneaking around, just finish it with your husband you're clearly not happy with him.
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