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*trawberries
writes: I'm relocating at 400 miles for a job, and I have recently being saying goodbye to all my friends that are staying put. Since May I've had a crush on a friend who I suspected (occaisonally) may have returned the feeling, and after walking her home and talking for hours I said that I wanted to kiss her (we were very sleepy by this point) and she kissed me. I was expected a quick peck and a "go home now" but we kissed several time and for a long time.When I finally left I was really confused. Happy make no mistake, but confused. I texted her later and asked where we stood and she replied "that being anything other than friends wasn't practical". Whilst deep down I know she's right, it's really hard and part of me wanted to try a long distance relationship. I won't see her now before I go, so it's likely to be months before I next see her. What should I do?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 August 2007):
I beg to disagree a bit with the other posters: What if you ring her and she doesn't like it? How are you to know?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 August 2007):
She may have kissed you thinking what does she have to lose; big kiss or small kiss, you're leaving anyway although she did say you could ring her so that's encouraging. I WOULD ring her a few times and see how it goes. If you don't you'll always keep thinking "if only....."
Eve
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reader, strawberries +, writes (14 August 2007):
strawberries is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks flowergirl I'm a real advocate for communication unfortunately I'm not really going to get a chance to talk to her about it. The timing really was awful.She did say I could ring her, which i probably will and we do have some future plans together..but ultimately our relationship has no future now.Just have to hold on and see what the future brings
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 August 2007):
Concentrate on your new job and meeting new people, like you said it will be a while before you see her again and by that time you will have moved on.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 August 2007):
Like she said, move on. She doesn't want a relationship, long- or short-distance.
I know it hurts, but, you'll feel better later. Since you're moving, you may find another interesting person over there.
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