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writes:Hiya everyone!well basically i want to know what people think is better being single and free with out any commitment or being in a relationship?the reason why is because i have recently been single for the last like 18 months and i have really enjoyed it, going out meeting new guys, dating different guys, experiencing new things, etc. However, i've met alot of different guys now so i think i can gather some sort of idea of what kind of guy i want a relationship with however, i dont know whether a relationship is a wise idea!I've only had one proper relationship (the others have been flings) and that didnt go too well plus i think i was too young (i was 17 at the time) so i dont want to have a relationship and then it will get ruined straight away.i guess im sort of scared to go into a relationship then, i mean ive had a couple of offers and im thinking shud i take one of them up :SI wanna know what u guys think are the positive and negative sides to a relationship and also being single if u dont mind ...thanksxx Reply to this Question
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reader, mr motivator +, writes (28 November 2009):
Im 21 and engaged, I have been having a great time, and I believe that if your with the right person you can have the time of your life until your well into you 70's and 80's
it all depends on who you enjoy being around
anyway whos to say you cant spend time with your friends and your partner
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (28 November 2009):
Well I've been single a long time....
Good things about singlehood
1) Life is soooo uncomplicated. Just listen to your friends angst about the man in their life and think I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that!
2) You are answerable to no-one (except family maybe) - if you want to get drunk/pig out on chocolate/spend £50 on a hairdo/buy a sexy new dress/have a night out with the girls/not shave your legs for 2 weeks/sleep diagonally across the bed..... there's no-one to complain or ask permission from.
3) You become self sufficient and don't need to be part of a couple to complete yourself. You don't expect to be looked after when you're ill or have difficult jobs done for you.
Not so good things about singlehood
1) Lack of sex - okay, you can still have sex when you're not in a relationship but it's not a patch on sex that's part of a committed partnership.
2) No-one to share the housework with
3) Men are usually better at DIY than me.
LOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Youre young so stay single for awhile longer until you meet the right man, then you will be happy to settle down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Ok tbh I'm only 17 and I'm in a relationship and I love my boyf, but I reckon it's generally 'better' to be single 25 and under because you know it's the time of your life to live it and have freedom and do things for you and work out like who you are and what you want kind of thing without having to be well 'responsible' for another person kind of thing if that makes sense
And 25+ I'd say it's definitely better to be in a proper relationship- to have that support and all
But then again I'm only 17 :D
As for your situation... why not give one of those offers a go? Though only do it if you actually like the guy please! If you commit too early and find you don't really want it it's the worst thing in the world trying to back up! ... ok well I'm sure there are worse things in the world- but it's still pretty bad.
Goodluck and have fun!
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