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*auz06
writes:I'm getting mixed signals from my boyfriend. He is 19 and I am 18 and we've been together for around 18 months now. My problem is that about a month ago he started acting funny with me, blowing hot and cold all the time, never seeing me on my own because he keeps bringing his friends along all the time. Then the one night we had alone in a month he went to bed at 7pm. I don't understand, if he doesn't want the relationship to carry on any longer then why doesn't he just tell me? We've talked about a future together but I have no idea what he wants now, but I do love him and want to make things work if possible. Please help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (15 August 2007):
You'll have to get him to open up. It could be anything, but being his girlfriend, that means you're there for him and he should realize this. If he claims it isn't any of your business, tell him how it is making you feel neglected and therefore it is your business since it is affecting you too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): You need to get him to open up about things - but without pushing it too much. There could be any number of issues here and it is difficult to hazard a guess.Having said that, I would say given your ages he may be feeling a little tied down. Maybe he's feeling like he's not had chance to play the field before getting into a serious relationship. I know this isn't what you want to hear but that's just my first assumption.Even if this is the issue, it doesn't mean the end of your relationship. You just need to talk it over. Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 It would seem natural that a boyfriend would like to have time alone with his girl. So, I have bad feelings about this. But, you need to ask. Tell him how you feel and see his reaction.
It's very unlikely that he will speak up if there really is a problem (which seems to be the case). No matter what he says, pay attention to his actions: if things don't change, leave him. Don't put yourself in the situation of agonizing over this for a very long time.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 August 2007):
 You need to tell him this babe, tell him that you do not know where you stand with him at the moment and you would really like to know, because if he does not think the relationship will work then it would be better for both of you to go your own seperate ways.
Take care.xx.
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