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writes:I don't really know what to think. My boyfriend moved to another state so we talk on skype and phone as often as possible. However I feel like sometimes he takes me for granted because he knows I love him to pieces, just little things like getting distracted while we're talking on skype, sometimes he's not really listening very well or he's working on something, or he will sit there and talk to someone on the phone. In the beginning of our relationship he was 100 percent focused now I feel like he's gotten too comfortable, like he just knows I will not go anywhere so he cannot try too hard. To me our time on skype and phone is precious since we aren't always able to coordinate our schedules, and I wish he would have the same sense of attentiveness. He tells me he loves me and misses me often but I don't know what to think. Where is the line between being high maintenance and wanting a reasonable amount of attention without any distractions? I love him so much! Reply to this Question
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reader, brigid.imagine  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 The key here is to not become clingy and overbearing, because you're likely to smother him without getting your point across. One night on skype, say to him exactly what you've written down here- it was honest and feeling. He probably doesn't realise he's upsetting you. The idea of letting him miss you isn't bad, and if talking to him doesn't work, certainly try it, but be sensible about it. Goodluck!
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reader, BagLady +, writes (4 March 2010):
You might want to ask if you are calling at a good time. Even though he may actually love you-staying glued to the phone or computer is not very interactive. Changing up the routine would help.
At the beginning of my relationship, my guy lived in Norway and I was in the USA. Instead of staying on the phone-we would send medium to long emails. That way the other could give it their full attention. Doing the same thing a lot can become monotonous-even if it's something you enjoy. Think of your favorite food...would you be able to eat it almost everyday for weeks...months? Most would say no.
You aren't hig maintenance I don't believe-you just miss him.
Try webcams, texts, emails, facebook, and other things to spice it up and see what happens.
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