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writes: So, there's this girl I've been friends with for about six or seven years now and she's starting to drive me a little bit crazy. When we first met, I didn't see her in a romantic way at all, but I always thought she was really nice and always got this feeling that she kinda say me in a romantic way (which might sound kind of egotistical, but hey, I call 'em like I see 'em). Over the years, our friends began to see it too, and they were constantly telling me that I should go out with her. I protested because I claimed that I only saw her as a friend or a sister. Well, the thing is, over time I began to truely appreciate how special and beautiful she truely was. Believe me when I tell you, this is not your everyday girl. She is awesome! So I started to pay alot more attention to her and we grew closer as friends. We started hanging out more, too, and we had alot of fun together. I've told her on multiple occasions how much I care about her and how much she means to me, but she always seems to want to change the subject. So I asked her "How come you never seem to want to tell me how you feel about me, even though I've always been very open with my feelings for you?". She said that she's never really been good with talkng about feelings. I told her I understood (I didn't really, though). This is where I start to get confused. I mean, its not like I'm asking her to write some Shakespearean play about how she feels, just a simple "I feel the same" or "I don't feel the same" would do, y'know? So I guess what I'm asking is, where do I go from here? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): if i was in your position i would just say to her "right look ive been wanting to tell you this for a while now, i dont know if you will feel the same or react to this but i feel i like you more as a friend"...and so on just tell her how you really feel. dont let her change the subject just say it, you will need to get it off your chest :)
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 well perhaps next time you tell her or next time you see her say to her if she is not that good with expressing how she feels about you to her face then why not over the email or via text message?
it's unfair because you'll never know how she feels about you otherwise and you guys could have a beautiful relationship together given you've known eachother for a good few years.
she may just be shy about her feelings i know i am not very good at confronting people with the way i feel i don't know why.
she could be the same.
just talk to her via messenger or something perhaps it'll ease her up a bit more and she'll tell you how she feels.
hope this helps.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Has there been any physical interaction between you two?With the information provided I would have to question how interested she is. Personally, I would only ever attempt to steer conversation in another direction under those circumstances if I wasn't interested.She's aware you like her, so I would assume it's not fear of rejection that makes her hold back.Instead of assuming the feelings are there and waiting for her to discuss them, how about you just ask her straight out whether she likes you as more than a friend?Yes or no, that's all there is.
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