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writes:I'm a super jealous person when it comes to my boyfriend. How do I stop? I'm extremely upset my boyfriend is talking to his ex-girlfriends little sister. We all went to the same high school. It's hurting me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): I don't think jealousy is 100% due to low self-esteem, many times there is a lack of trust behind this issue. Has your boyfriend given you reason to doubt your trust in him? When you trust someone 100%, there is minimal jealousy in the relationship.
I believe his involvement with the ex's little sister could be purely innocent...but then again, it might not be. We can't really tell with the limited information we have here.
I think you will find, someday, when you are with a man you trust completely, you will feel secure and happy in that relationship. Until then, don't be tooo hard on yourself.
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reader, izzyabella  +, writes (14 July 2009):
i truley think that jealousy just pulls you further apart. Me and my boyfriend have constant arguements about me being jealous.
I've been in exactly the same place as you are, you really just need to trust him. It's not like it's his ex so they have no history, maybe he's like an older brother to her.
i would suggest you talk to the sister and explain how you feel, make sure you get your boyfriend involved too, because he won't appreciate you going behind his back.
good luck
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 July 2009):
 i am like you hun!
i get really jealous to be honest!
and eyeswideopen is probably right to do with low self esteem i know i do have low self esteem of myself.
maybe its the same with you but what you should know is that if you trust your boyfriend COMPLETELY! then you should know nothing will happen and just trust it's just talking nothing more nothing less.
i mean if you keep having jealousy issues towards this then you may push him as far as to perhaps lean towards this girl.
but this is his EX's sister as well little sister so i am thinking he is a genuine guy and wouldn't do that
A. because he loves you and is with you not her!
B. it's his ex's little sister
he probably gets on well with her and stuff and still likes to keep in contact because maybe he got on well with her when him and his ex were together!
you just need to think he's with you and you trust him not to do anything! best way to do it really.
hope this helps hun.
message me you want to talk further!
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Jealous people usually have one thing in common, low self-esteem. How's yours?
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