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writes:Maybe all of you can help me with this.Since the moment I learned of what abortion is, I have always thought it a good thing. A woman has choices, she can spare a life from suffering if she feels she is not ready. I thought it better than giving it up for adoption because, there are so many orphaned children already and so many made to suffer through the uncaring world today. No matter how many kind people adopt, it seems the sea of unwanted innocent youth never ends. Which is why I always appreciated the women who knew they were not ready and had an abortion. I did not see anything wrong with it since there is a legal time limit until abortion is not an option.During that legal time, the foetus growing in the womb did not think or feel, no mind had developed, neither did the nerves so before 12 weeks was over, it was merely an unwanted 'organ' in the woman's body, feeding from her. When a woman knows that it is not wanted, is abortion not the best option? What life would that child have if the mother never wanted it in the first place? What if that bond never forms? What if financially she was not ready or perhaps emotionally? What if it was the product of rape or other atrocities? Is abortion not the best option? But then, recently, I have read posts from women who have had abortions, who say they suffered monumentally because of it, they regretted it and just by reading it, I felt a great sense of tragedy within me. What if this whole time I was on the wrong side of it all? There is a reason for everything is there not? I would just like to understand it. I just want other women's opinions on it so that perhaps in the future if a beloved friend or family member ever happens to have to make a choice, I can offer a helping hand if they come to me for advice. I can offer them, educated in all sides of it.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Abortion is never the "best" option. It is, sometimes, the least bad option.
About 12 years ago the girl who is now my wife had an abortion - the result of stupidity and some English - Chinese translation issues. It wasn't easy for her. We now have 3 children of whom we are immensely proud. Sometimes when I watch them playing, so clever and so beautiful and full of love and happiness, I wonder what kind of wonderful human being we deprived the world of. But then I realise that had we had that first child then possibly none of those that we have now would be who they are. If transported back in time I think that we would both make the same decision again.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (19 October 2010):
Cerberus_Raphael is verified as being by the original poster of the question First off, I would like to thank all of you who offered your perspective on this subject.
You are right of course, I never specified what 'not being ready' meant.
I suppose in situations where the relationship between a man and a woman is tense and bound to be shatter any day, or perhaps in a situation where neither are financially ready or emotionally ready. To be a parent means making sacrifices in one way or another. I cannot explained what being unready means, some people may find themselves in odd and often undesirable situations where every single day is a struggle and an unforgiving battle. I am sorry if this is not specific enough but, listing different situations out would be aimless and redundant. Every situation has a variable or a detail that no one notices until it is too late and extravagantly life-affecting. I know for a fact that this is so. I merely wish to know why one would be against/supportive of abortion.
Of course common sense and proper contraception is always the answer but they do not always work and people often find themselves careless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): I am not anti-abortion, but the fatal flaw in the scenario you mention is the assumption of what "being ready" means. Almost all children are born into households or families where everything is not "perfect" financially, maritally, or whatever. What you describe as "suffering" may actually be a growing, loving period not only in the childs life, but also the parents. My wife and I (then my girlfriend) had an abortion because she is devout Catholic and we feared rejection from her family if we had a child out of wedlock. I fear being judged and regret the decision. I think about my unborn child, who would be about 18 right now. We felt justified at the time, because we too felt like we were "not ready". Our decision has only been a black secret that we have told no one...nobody in our family or any of our friends.
My suggestion is, if yo make the decision to "choose" your life, make your life a testament to that decision. Use the years wisely to build a better life...truly.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 i think abortion is a great thing as you said for all of those reason. but the thing i stand more firm on is if all the people in the world used more common sense and not be so selfish they would not have unwanted pregnancies nor abortion. the world has gotten too wild and its time it was reined back in it is truly sad how many unwanted children their are or those who suffer at their mothers not nurturing them right or even people with serious drug addictions. at the end of the day its a service that is their for those who want to use it no one pressures them into doing it so im neither here nor their about it. if they regret their choice then its bad on them not the abortion people they are doing a job like anyone else. as i said these things would not happen if people were more safe and ddnt think about sex before the odds of being a mother. aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): In my eyes, abortion is permissible if the pregnancy is a threat to the mothers life, if the pregnancy is a result of rape or incest or if the foetus is incompatible with life.
Abortion should never be used as a form of contaception.
I have never been in a situation where abortion would have been a consideration and until one is in a difficult situation, I dont believe anyone can judge any woman for her choice. And it is a choice that I am grateful that I have never had to make.
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reader, cheannryl  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Prevention is much better than abortion.
If she's not ready then why not use contracptives?
For me abortion sounds like immaturity.
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