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writes:im in love with this guy ive been seeing for 2 years we was just friends first and now we r very secret about are relasonship and he want tell no one but i told a few people he didnt get mad about it he just denied it saying we just had a one night stand and that was all but when its me and him on are own hes sweet he says he loves me but he keeps us a secret even thought i dont want to keep it a secret what should i do
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reader, Rednaxela +, writes (16 November 2007):
Walk away!!
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 Both the other answers are RIGHT.
Hun, you need to love yourself enough to get OUT of this situation.
NO real man would want to HIDE somebody he loves from the world. This is selfish of him, and he embarrassed you by indicating to others that you are lying about your relationship. Not only did he embarrass you, but he degraded you by indicating you are only a one-night-stand, and even though he may not have said the actual words, he meant, that you were only good enough for a casual shag. Why would you allow him to treat you this way. I'm sure your feelings for him are real, but his words and his deeds don't agree with one another.
It would be in your best interest to move on. Out there somewhere is a guy who will want to shout from the mountain tops that YOU are his girl, and he wouldn't want to HIDE his love for you.
Good luck. I hope you can move on from this. Mail me if you want to chat.
Love
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 When a man loves a woman, he usually wants to tell everyone to make sure they know she is off limits.
My guess is that he sees you as a sex-buddy, but does not want to committ to you. He could be involved with other women, or maybe just waiting until someone new comes along.
Bottom line, you are a friend with benefits to him. That is obivous.
Question: have you ONLY had sex that one time like he claims, or are you sexual regulary? Unless you are regularly having sex in those 2 years, the relationship is just in your head.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (15 November 2007):
 hey,
talk to him! it seems as if he is hiding something!
i don't think he really means it when he says he loves you because usually when you love someone you want to show everyone that you love him!
you have to face him and see why this behaviour! you have been together for 2 years! this isn't a game ! and you certainly aren't a game either! so why do you let him play with you like that?
and if he denies it again you have to leave him !
good luck byeXXX
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