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writes:okay I have no self estme or confidence what so ever. what can I do to change that cause Ive driven into hateing myself for it... (sorry if I mispelled anything)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): I'm going through a Kinesiology program at a college (study of human movement). I can tell you that exercise has a positive effect on confidence. Not just that but it gets rid of depresion, stress, learning ability, etc. I assure you, it's true and the results are pretty obvious in a lot of cases.
If you're depressed, go slow jog for 30 minutes and see how you feel. Talk to a random stranger before and after exercise, see how it feels. You'll understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): When I had low self esteem I decided I was going to change one thing in my life. For me that was becoming a vegetarian to loose weight, I got a sense of accomplishment from it and I lost weight which helped me gain body confidence! Try something similar, something right for you!
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reader, partyprincess2011  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 right, 1 way to boost self esteem - get close friends and family to list good things about you, and keep these lists for when you feel low, they will remind you how great u are!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 And remember, loving yourself is not a bad thing, nor is it conceited. It's good. So don't be embarrassed about it once you do start to care for yourself. Be proud instead that you have managed to do something most people are afraid to.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (2 January 2011):
How can you hate yourself for not having any self esteem? If you don't have any self esteem how can there be anything to hate. I wonder if you in fact do care for yourself, but lack the ability to admit to it, thus saying you "hate" yourself over it.
My advice to you is to be honest with yourself and not just say what you think is safest. In the case that you really do not have self esteem you might want to talk to someone about it and start to get active on boosting your self esteem. Sitting around crying over it will get you no-where, and there is nothing anyone can do about it either. YOU are the only one who can change how YOU feel about yourself! So you just need to get active and start working on it, there's no other way.
My personal fave of "boost me up techniques" is to write down an honest list over things you are good at. It doesn't have to be things you excell at, or do perfectly, but things you are plain GOOD at, things you master, things you control, things you can handle well. Such as: make dinner. Boil rice. Eat right every day. You get 20 minutes of fresh air every day. You sometimes watch the news or read a newspaper. You help others out.
In the case that you're NOT doing anything good, get started at it. Volunteer for something, help people out, do a good deed, cook dinner for your parents, clean the house, do yoru homework etc. Do good things and add them on to your list. Do not write anything negative. Then read that list to yourself at least once a day.
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