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writes:I married a man 18 yrs older than myself. 2 decades later and a child I'm regreting my choices but feel obligated to stay in the marriage due to religious beliefs. My husband has been impoent for years and I have never cheated on him. I was 38 when we got married and he was 56. I'm really concerned that at some point I deserve a loving marital relationship.I've thought of cheating to satisfy my needs but can't bring myself to do itWe really have no relaionship other than parents to our son. We live like room mates. I feel like I'm in a no win situation. At this point in my life divorce would be financially unacceptable. I have a career my husband does not. I feel I would probably end up paying him spousal support if we were to divorce. Help any suggestions.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): You have not even considered seeking medical advice on his impotency?
It may actually be a medical issue that can be cured. A lot of men are sexually active until the day they die.
I think you are being a tad selfish here. Yes you have to consider your own desires and needs, but you are no way near out of options yet.
There are of course OTHER ways a woman can be sexually pleasured. You may just have to get a little more creative about sex now. And thats not altogether a bad thing.
But the first thing you both need to do is get to the root cause of his impotency and see if there is anything that can be done.
You have to communicate with your husband, you owe him that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): Well he in his middle 70s is he healthy? There is a chance he may live another 10 yrs. Do you want to spend that time in this situation. You can arrange a separation and live in the same house or tell him you want to have an affair. It may be worth the sposal support to get out and get what you need.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 June 2010):
Make your choice. Either live with him as you are, or divorce. This is always the price of marrying an older person. But you can be sure of one thing. Cheat, and you'll lose the lot. Your son will not appreciate knowing you cheated, your husband will leave you and your reputation will be tarnished. I'm afraid it's a case of having made a choice, and now having to live with it. There are two ways that this can go. Either you have to leave him and pay the price, or you have to stay and this is your life. There are no other choices. To cheat would be to degrade yourself, your son and your husband who has been loyal. Choose.
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