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writes:I started dating my first boyfriend a month ago.I am just turning 18 and he is about to turn 19. He spoils me,and takes me out to nice restaraunts,and I lost my virginity to him acouple weeks ago. eveybody thinks he is my prince charming including me. He took me out to Dinner and a movie on Valentine's Day,then we went back to my house and just hung out in my room,he is very respectful and said he wouldnt feel comfortable doing anything with my parents there. And that he wants to take things slow because when you rush into things to fast the relationship never turns out good. He also said he isnt going anywhere and I have nothing to worry about. About a week and a half ago he told me he is falling in love with me.But the problem is after Valentine's Day he got sick with a cold,but he felt good enough to drive his little brother over to his moms and watch movies over there.And yesterday he didnt return my call or text message at all,and when i drove by his house(it was on my way home)his truck wasnt even there.I am NOT clingy,even though it might sound like it,I just want to know what is going on through his head,and should i try calling him or wait for him to call me? I am new to relationships and do not understand men.please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyb ody for your advice but I should have listened to my intuition because I was just a rebound and he decided to let me know he isn't ready for a girlfriend right now through a text message. The wonderful world of myspace let me know that he is back with his ex! Whew... I feel great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): Don't worry about this, there is nothing wrong with the way you are thinking. This happens to a lot of people. I know this because it has happened to me, the reason you are feeling paranoid about this is because like you said, you feel that he is like a prince charming to you and you feel that he has no particular reason to stay with you. This is common in the first few weeks of relationships where things may feel tense or fragile. You just need to trust your boyfriend, he told you that he wasnt going anywhere and he meant it. All relationships require trust and without it you will not last very long. I hope things go well for you x
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Hey sweetness,
This is your chance to prove what a cool girlfriend you really are. It's totally okay to have these minor freakouts in your head (we all do), but like like Rach and Shortstuff said, just relax and chill out. He'll come to you. He sounds like he likes you and wants to be with you, so don't fret. He'll call you soon... and when he does you can just talk to him like you would. "Hey, how are you feeling? What movies did you watch at your Moms? Feeling good enough to hang out with me tonight?", etc.
I don't think you have anything major to worry about, sweetness!
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok,so what do I say when he does call?
And Aunty Rach, after acouple days when he did call you,did he break up with you?
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (18 February 2009):
hmm sounds like a very similar situation i had with an ex. everything was great, he told me he was falling for me, blah blah...then he came down with a cold and he didn't contact me for a few days. i never really understood it, but i thought maybe he is just freaking out about getting close to someone.
i think you should just wait for him to call you. that's why i did and he did call after a few days.
relationships can be confusing, after all you are trying to understand another person. also guys see things differently to us girls. when we are freaking out because they have not called, they are just thinking that it won't bother us. try not to panic over these things. he will call eventually.
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reader, shortstuff4789 +, writes (18 February 2009):
 ok take a deep breath. relax and give him his space. let him come to you. cause if you keep calling and texting he will feel like you are smothering him. i have this problem all the time and he will come to you when he is ready dont worry.
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