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writes:Your gf/bf of 1.5 years had sex with his/her ex (multiple times) after a week and a half of being broken up. he/she really regrets it and wants you back. would you take him/her back? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (1 October 2009):
 It's possible she was trying to comfort herself from the break up with you. She didn't cheat on you and was apparently honest about the sex.
If you want her, take her back. If you don't, then don't. But don't use that as an excuse.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 October 2009):
My God, don't take her back! She didn't exactlt value your feelings did she! There are better girls than that. Fine another one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): hell no, please do not take her back. you were together for 1.5 years and within a week she has been having sex MULITPLE TIMES. if it was only once, then maybe she could have called it a mistake, but many times, NO. if she valued her relationship with you, instead of jumping into bed with another man, she should have evaluated her situation beforehand. the so called " guilt" that she is feeling, is mere bulldust. if she felt any guilt she would have stopped having sex with him the first time. she indulged freely, knowingly and she made a deliberate choice. do not be fooled into this "guilt, i am sorry " nonsense. she knew what she was doing, no one forced her. ask her what happened- did her ex throw her away after the sexual activities. think very very carefully before you go back to her. personally i think you will be making a mistake but it is your life, so you make a decision that you can live with.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (1 October 2009):
 It sucks when you break up with someone you really care for. Period. You don't really feel like fooling around with someone else for a while, unless you had it stuck in your mind that you wanted to even before the break up. You're saying this person had sex with their ex multiple amounts of times only after a week or so of breaking up? Sounds like instead of breaking things off for a more qualified reason (like wanting space or perhaps wanting to think your relationship through), they just wanted time to fool around with their ex and then get back to you after.
Not a very caring sentiment. You have to do what you think is right. Me personally, if I found out that my significant other had sex with their EX only a week after us breaking up, I wouldn't want them back. What about later down the road? What if they break up with you again for another fling with an ex? They obviously still have feelings for their ex, even if they are only sexual. Is that something you want to put up with? It sounds like way too much drama. They should have thought about it before breaking up with you and shacking up with an ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): It was done when you were broken up. In addition they regret it. If I didn't want to take them back it would have been for other reasons than that. How can what they did that week and a half be compared to what you had with them for a year and a half?
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