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writes:are guys attracted to nice ,quiet ,shy ,innocent ,genuine ,safe,plain looking girls? would guys find girls like this boring because i am like this i am passed over for the babes who are loud,dress sexy and who are party girls.i want to be sexy ,gorgeous looking with great figure, but i am complete opposite!i find guys tend to treated the nice ,quiet girls badly like they don,t exist and good enough.i am not party girl,i find it hard to make friends let alone a boyfriend,guys want these girls as girlfriends and want to be seen with but not the quiet library type like me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): orginal post:
may be i am too old to have a first boyfreind it sound like 20 yaer old getting her first rattler or her first ABC book.its sad and pathetic i know but i have a problems.meeting guys who don,t want me .and guy going off wi other girls always let out.
i am jus too old an di am just too sad and pathetic ,loser is all i am ,loser,i missed because the only guys i like are the ones who hate me .they frusrated me so much i like bad boys who don,t like me an dmakae me feel worse about my self.worten usually
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): orginal poster:I am like this nice, quiet, shy, innocent, genuine, safe, plain looking girl. I wear glassess too just to polish things off, overweight, short and guys absolutely hate the sight of me. Guys don't fancy the likes of me at all because I am too innocent and quiet. At 29 years old I have not had a boyfriend and I don't know how to kiss. I am a very sad joke. I tend to like guys who hate me, who have absolutely no interst in me at all. None! Will I tell how I know because they never ask me my name, where I am or ask the age I am. They always talk about other girls in front of me or tell me about their past girlfriends, always oggling girls in front of me or they let me see them, their new girlfriend or else they say rotten things to get rid of me and be as cold as ice to me, or else I'm flat out rejected without giving me a chance.The guys I describe are they guys I like, sad aren't I? I like guys who are better looking than me, smarter than me, have more confidence, more sexually experienced. I am a sad case for never having a boyfriend, I am very lonely and never having a boyfriend I've never been kissed and never asked out, never brought any where nice.This is the type of guys I go for: Cute, tall, sporty, competitve, cheeky, forward, spiteful, over confident, full of the themselves, always oggling girls, lots of girlfriends and who have no interest in me whatsoever.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Talking Helps is right. Everyone has preferences. Which means that "nice, quiet, shy, innocent, genuine, safe, plain looking" girls also find someone to love them. As it always happens, some people will not like you, while others will.
Oldersister is also right. Many of us will go for the "naughty librarian". You can be all that you are, and yet have a mischievous side. That will make you shine in the eyes of the one who bothers to go beyond the looks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Gosh, everyone has their own preferences. Why haven't people realised by now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): opposites attract and i dont think it matters if your quiet or out there..
but im 18 at the moment and im going threw my bad boy phase and its fun but its me as well im a wild girl soo it seems all i can attract is the bad boys and nothing else...
but its exciting and you have to put yourself out there to attract them because there hard to get and you have to be out there
anywyaz good luck and merry xmas
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): PS... thanks for the laughter ms anonymous, it really must be the Christmas season at last. That's exactly what them "bad boys" look like to me. The keep smiling, and all I see is the tail, the wolves ears and their big sharp teeth. lol... devil's indeed, they scare me, they don't turn me on.
If you want to attract a guy like that, then you will have to change. You must look exactly like the girls they run after, and then you will have to behave spiteful, shallow and cruel as well. These guys don't see nice, and they don't do innocent, all they see tits, ass and sex.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Cute,tall,sporty,competitve,cheeky,forward,spiteful,over confident,full of the themselves , always ogling girls,lots of girlfreinds....
These kind of guys don't really respect or like women, the only thing they care about is themselves. Please don't be upset, they don't really get attracted to "nice" girls, they are usually only looking for sex rather than a relationship. Nice girls are too honest and innocent for them, they prefer to find people who are more like themselves. Like often attracts like and opposites can repel.
Nice ,quiet ,shy ,innocent ,genuine ,safe, plain looking girls should stay far away from a guy like this. All they can do is break your heart, use you for sex and then dump you for somebody else. They're not called bad boys for nothing, they may look interesting from afar, but get them home and they continue to treat you like dirt. Stay far away from that type of man, I always do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): bad boys are nightmare to deal with,they shallow ,nasty,cruel in they words,they users and abusers,they clever,chancers,they,ll chance with with any girl if they successed they happy till they find new hotter looking target, by far the best trick that i have falling for by bad boy is letting on his like alter boy and really nice caring innocent guy who acts likes he never had gilfreind,with the doe eyes and innocent expression would make girls heart bleed and feel sorry for him. and when he knows he has you clamed you see evil smile and horns and tail from no where.
JUST LIKE THE OMEN
BAD BOY = WOLF IN SHEEP CLOTHEING.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): What the hell... is it because of the Xmas season that there are all these kinds of posts or what?
Guys are attracted to CONFIDENT, SELF-ASSURED women, irregardless of the packaging. If there's a choice between a "party girl" who is an insecure mess and girl is confident in herself, but just more low-key (the quiet, plain girl), then any normal decent guy will be more attracted to the quiet one. Only con-men and players will go after the insecure messes, since they know they can take advantage of them.
The reason why guys seem to flock to the outgoing party girl types is the exact same reason girls tend toward to bad boys... both exude confidence in the way they dress, walk, talk, etc. Confidence is sexy. Confidence attracts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): orginal post:
tisha even those guys are not always what seem either.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Why are you overlooking the "nice ,quiet ,shy ,innocent ,genuine ,safe, plain looking guys?" They're out there too, only they don't get noticed because of the "cute,tall,sporty,competitve,cheeky,forward,spiteful,over confident,full of the themselves" guys. Personally, I go for the middle ground, the nice, cute, sporty, genuine ones. Less likely to break one's heart and cute enough to date!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Library type any day, there super hot! they know the sensuality pleasure and fun. Most babes just want to be there for the ride. I usually don't like girls that are too hot, plastic hot, its boring and there just a pain in the butt all the time its totally not worth it.
But there are some nice babes, the sad thing is about them they are so hassled by blokes that they are in a state of over caution all theire lives.. Very sad to see. They wait 40 winters for the right one but he never comes and then its all to late.. then their over caution personally sticks and the youthfull beauty has gone. they have nothing and are power hungry and mean... I really feel sorry for this type of women. its not a nice way to live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): orginal post:this type of guy: cute,tall,sporty,competitve,cheeky,forward,spiteful,over confident,full of the themselves , always ogling girls,lots of girlfreinds and used to kissing type .thses i mention act very superior in themselves that really annoys me .i am going to meniton is not suitable for the nice ,quiet ,shy ,innocent ,genuine ,safe,plain looking girl,nerver had boyfreind,being kissed,or clubed before.i hate my self becasue i could never a boyfreind or guy to kiss me.guys my own age treated me like a child.if yes expalin?if no expalin?
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reader, ForbiddenHELL +, writes (22 December 2008):
keep in mind those men who go for the party girl, are not the guys you want liking you. There man whores. They'll take your heart and crush it, and worse they'll take your innocence.Also, Horny librarian is always my first pic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): orginal post:
no what i meant.sorry if i confused you boys,between the differecne may be i didn,t expalin it so well.
so have another go
would he perfer the nice ,quiet ,shy ,innocent ,genuine ,safe,plain looking girl or the loud,dress sexy and who are party girls.
its has to be one or the other nothing to do with a 'naughty' librarian type one or the other ,NOT both in one,
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reader, damag3d +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Men and women alike are first attracted to what is pleasing to the eye. So usually the "sexy", flashy, outgoing girls are noticed first.
The thing to do is to remember that any man worth having is going to make it past the top layer or looks department and find someone who is sincere and compatible for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): orginal post:
i have ever even had my kiss or boyfreind ever inlife .at 29 yaers old may be i am too old for nightclubs,i am so innocent and i really have no idea how to get a boyfreind.
how to get a guy to kiss or be intersted in me in sexual way.any guys i like they like in sexual way so they insulted and rejcted .all because i am not what they wnat ina girlfreind.i got long time ago and i am still gettin over it and he gots himself brand new state of the art girlfreind who i can,t meaure up to.the guy i like are as follows.cute,tall,sporty,competitve,cheeky,forward,spiteful,over confident,full of the themselves.
they always have girlfreind and they know how to french kiss.
me i don,t know to kiss or ever will.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Personally,I would be more attractive to the one who is actually pleasant to be with, rather than one who would seem to want nothing but sex, attention and affection.
As someone who is a similar sort of the person to the one you describe yourself as, I can say that it's all about the right match. You will find that the ones that pass over you are generally loud and irritating people too. Just, dont make a complete fool out of yourself: I made that mistake once, and it cost me most of my dignity and a chunk of my pride:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/know-who-it-is-you-think-you-love.html
Try reading:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/more-about-the-classic-be-yourself.html
I wrote that too: see if it helps.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (22 December 2008):
 I would rather be with someone who is shy, innocent, genuine and plain any day, just because these babes look really good, doesn't mean they are interesting to talk to, or have a sense of humour.
I fell for someone who you would call a babe, but it turned out she was a compulsive liar and was a bit strange tbh. Looks aren't everything and not all guys are shallow.
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