Is she just keeping me around because I help with her child so much?

A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I had been dating someone for about 6 months, she had a 2 year old from a previous relationship. things were going great then out of the blue she decided that she was feeling too much pressure being in this serious of a relationship. A few weeks went by and we both agreed that we missed each other and decided to spend time together and see what happened. During this time we attended a concert and while at the concert she ran into an ex and left me at the concert and went home with him. This was the end for me. I remarkably was able to get over her within days. I didn't speak to hear for almost a month and then she reached out and contacted me. We talked and I assured her that what happened was water under the bridge and there was no reason why we couldn't be friends she agreed. However she then started texting me and calling me quite frequently I can honestly say that I had no romatic feelings for her at the time. She started by asking me to help her out from time to time fixing things for her borrowing things etc. This was all in the span of a couple of weeks. Then one day she tells me that she has really been missing me lately and still has feelings for me. I didn't think much of it until the next time I saw her and then the feelings started coming back. I told her I realize I have feelings as well. So in the past few weeks we have been trying to see if we can work it out. Problem is I don't know if I can trust her and also she has been going through some mental health issues which she was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. She tells me she thinks she is ready for a relationship but she wants me to let her come to me. She doesn't want to feel any pressure that she felt before which always makes her push someone away. Its hard because I do care about her but at the same time I don't want to be just waiting around until she is ready, and also I seem to be paranoid that she is not being straight with me about how she really feels and is just keeping me around because I help her with her child so much. Does anyone understand where I am coming from or have any opinions on what I should do I am out of ideas.

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