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writes:I have this problem here. Actually a few, but they all mend together somehow.Here it goes:I got accepted to school in Fall and I have no idea if I should go. I have a boyfriend here at home and I take us really seriously, and he does I the same but told me if I went away, he wouldn't be able to do a long distance relationship.In my eyes, I think if you want to be with someone bad enough you'd do anything to be with them no matter what. So does he even really take us seriously in the long run even though he says he does? I mean, I guess he does, I just don't think I'd be able to leave and know that we wouldn't be able to work out if that were the case. In the end, I'd want to stay here. But then I'd have no idea if I were making the wrong or right decision. I just wish he'd want to come with me, or just wait it out a few months until I got back. And I'd visit here and there and I'm sure he could manage the same.But now here comes the other stuff. Before I was dating the guy I am now, there was someone else. We went through a really rough time, but I fell in love with him during it all. We've still been talking here and there and the possibility of him and I still linger in my brain. *SighI'm so confused at just about everything right now. 'Cause if I still have this other guy on my mind, and still think of the possibility of him and I, then how seriously do you think I take the guy I'm with right now? This is taunting me.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Hello. You are correct in thinking if someone loves you they will do what it takes to stay with you. Even if it that means being in a LDR for a while. But your current boyfriend has told you hes not prepared to do that. So in all honesty, while he has been very honest, it doesnt really sound as if hes "the one". Which should make you question if its wise to throw away college for him. I dont really think that would be a smart move. I think moving away to college will be to your advantage in the long term. As for your ex bf. It sounds as if you still have feelings for him. Maybe explore them again if/when you become single x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Not very seriously. But it's for the best. So you can go to school ,that in the greater scheme of things is more important.
Boyfriends are plentiful but good jobs are hard to come by and you need to get all the qualifications you can to secure one.
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