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writes:What should you do if you have a boyfriend who nevers accepts responsibility for his wrong doing or manipulates situations to make me feel i've done something wrong when i haven't. For example he was hiding his phone and i knew there was somthing wrong and when i questioned him he said i was pathetic. Two weeks later the truth came out that this girl was in touch with him because she wanted out with his friend yet i feel hurt that he turned around made me feel bad. Another example he had told an ex we were goin through a rough patch without telling me so she was texting him and i got in touch with his ex telling her to leave my boyfriend alone. He says i was wrong for doing what i did??? What does anyone think? Why is love so complicated! Is a boyfriend like this worth staying with - i seem to end up arguing my point and i think if i did a poll most would agree that i was right and he was wrong.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 I kinda disagree... I think if there is trust in a relationship you should not be checking his cel nor calling his ex.
With that said, the problem lies here: you ARE going through a rough patch. I think (from an outsiders and limited information point of view) he is not into the relationship and into making it work as he should be. He (for what he said himself) is not entirely happy with the relationship thus possibly permitting and provoking attentions from other females. You my friend might be at the beginning of the end of your relationship. Maybe you should talk to him and take a sense on what he is really feeling or if there is hope and desire to make it work from the BOTH of you. A relationship cannot work on your own effort.
Always remember loyalty is required from your partner, do not blame some other females for what HE is not doing right.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Why would he tell an ex that you're going through a patch, unless he's seeking some sort of comfort for what may have been happening at the time? I'd ask him why it's takes two weeks to come out with a simple truth?
Why is love so complicated? I really isn't, we just seem to make it that way. I will tell yo that love does not include calling the one you're with pathetic. I know you have your reasons (which are beyond me) why you are with someone who doesn't take responsibility. At some point you may need to be blunt. Tell him to grow up, or you need to find an adult to be with.
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (7 November 2007):
 You are right you would be better off with out him but obvisioly no one can tell you that you have to leave him that is something you need to decide.
Think of the reasons why you stay with him and if that doesnt amount to much and you thik you would be happier without then go your separet ways.
Peaches :)
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