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writes:I'm madly in love with a woman that I've been in and out of a relationship with for almost 2 years now. We lived together with her 3 kids for a year, and things did not work out for us at that time, so I moved out and bought my own place. We didn't talk for a few months, but quickly realized we couldn't live without each other, so we got back together and have been together for about 3 months now. Things are going very well for us. She recently got diagnosed as bi-polar, which explains both her behavior and my reactions in our past relationship when we argued. She is looking for a house for her and her kids (currently living at her mothers) and I am fearful. See, I want to marry this woman and I want a house with her. I miss falling asleep with her and waking up with her. Being a new home owner, it would be difficult for me to sell my condo and she really wants to get out of her mom's house as soon as possible.Cupid, I'm not sure what to do here. My condo is not big enough for all of us to live in and I don't want to lose money by selling it, since I just bought it 4 months ago. She can't afford a very big house for her and her kids, so if she buys a place, I doubt it will be big enough for me to move in when I eventually do sell my condo. It seems that our relationship always has some obstacles that are mighty difficult to get through. Any advice Cupid? Am I being too negative and fearful?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2007): why dont you rent the condo and can use the rent money you get to help her pay for the new place?
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reader, home_land  +, writes (25 March 2007):
 hello if you talk about love you dont need to worry about money partnership is about sharing and love is sharing and sex you can buy it if you love her you have to be able to share with her what you have and money or house are things you made and i dont really know if they can make you happy and give you love.good luck
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reader, DreamMaster  +, writes (24 March 2007):
 Hey look – what choice do you have?
You have tried living without her but you cant – so stop holding onto that life – it does not make you happy,
Throw yourself into the decision you have made, go for it full steam – because it is going to require that kind of energy and enthusiasm from you,
You are going to have to be the strong person in this relationship, be the man,
Show her that you can provide a good life for this love of your life, and take the chance,
Ok, worst case scenario – it doesn’t work out – so sell up and move on again,
But if you go in full steam, give it everything you have got – then you can make it work,
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