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writes:there's this guy i really like i had a "thing" with. i wasn't into him at all when we first met, but after a friendly night out we ended up sleeeping together. the day after he acted like nothing had happened at all, so i did the same. we didn't contact each other for over a month, although we did keep bumping into each other on campus, exchanging few words. strange, because i started having a big crush on him even though we would only pass by in the cafeteria etc. then out of the blue, after a month he calls me to go out with him. it was friendly all night until we went back to his house. he started coming on to me and i rejected him at first, expecting the same result of us being awkward as before, but went for it anyways (after rudely rejecting him). the sex was great, but it was the same result. we didn't contact each other for a month. and this has happened 4 times. WHAT does it mean? Does he like me? Am i just forcing myself to think i have a crush on a guy i hardly know? What should i do? I really like him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): He likes you for sex. A man who genuinely cares or wants to be with a women would never ignore her after being intimate with her.
This has happened 4 times now, you really need to learn your lesson. If it's sex you want, great. If it's a relationship - time to stop playing ignoring games, move on and find a man who is interested in you as a person.
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reader, electra  +, writes (24 March 2007):
 Hey sweetie
You poor thing you, its sad that this keeps on happening but in my opinion he is just using you for a jump once every month then deafing you like it never happened my advice is sweetie your worth 10 of this guy stop sleeping with him then getting ignored, he sounds arrogant and only in this for what he can get you deserve so much better than what he is offering you and expecting you to be grateful for, he's a jerk, go find someone who deserves and wants you and is willing to offer the same thing back that u are offering don't settle for second best i think cause u an he got it on u are trying to convince urself he feels the same hense the whole crush thing see what everyone else see's he's keeping you on tap so he gets what he wants once a month and ur just going along with it cause you think u won't or can't get any better well i'm here to tell u ur worth 10 even 50 of him so dump this loser and move on ok babe :o)
i hope my advice was able to help u a little, if u need a chat or a friend or a shoulder to cry on come find me ok :o) i'm always here for u
Take Care :o)
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reader, DreamMaster  +, writes (24 March 2007):
 What should you do?
I wish I knew what you WANTED and then I could tell you for sure,
It is difficult to imagine that this guy sees you as anything other than sex every few weeks, he doesn’t appear to want a relationship at all from what you tell us,
He could either be shy – or a total player – I don’t have enough information,
Does he like you? Well, he likes you enough to have sex with you (so physically – yeah he does). Does he like you enough to have a relationship – I see no evidence of that.
Perhaps you don’t get enough attention from guys, and so this guy comes along giving you attention, and you give him whatever he wants in return…
If you want a relationship – then ask him – are we going out or what?
If he says no – then tell him you aren’t doing this anymore (despite the fact that you really like him)
If you are happy with the infrequent sex anytime he feels like it – then continue as is,
Seems like an easy enough problem to me…
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reader, livi +, writes (24 March 2007):
 hey there,
intresting.
you need to tell him you really like him but you find these random gaps of being off with each other really off putting, you dont want to be messed round but you think there is a definate spark there.
you are not some hussy he can pick up when ever conveniant!
good luk : D
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): he doesn't like you. he's probably got other girls and balancing the time he spends with them out. sorry.
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