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writes:i found out the other day that this lad likes me but there are big problems one he is 28 and i am 18 and another one is my mam wont allow it but he seems to realy like me and i like him too i have done for sometime, i dont know what to do, they say age is only a number and there was 11 years between my nanna and grandad so they are an insperation to me, please help me decide what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, shauna  +, writes (7 August 2007):
give it a chance, i was 18 when i met my 28 year old boyfriend (at the time) too. we've been together for a little over two years now and want to get married one day. being ten years apart gets you a lot of unwarranted advice and looks sometimes, but as long as you are both mature and you're sure its what you want there is no problem with it!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): I think you should just be friends and no more. Your mum is the best person to listen to. She loves you and knows you better than you know yourself. you might disagree, but you'll find out one way or another. I'm 28, and not to sound condescending, really couldn't be bothered with an 18 year old. Has he had younger girlfriends before? He could be someone who only likes the younger ones, cos he can't match someone his own age mentally. What happens when you catch up, and he seems like an idiot? He may be wanting fresh young meat, when he's used you throw you away. Be careful, and don't get hurt.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (3 August 2007):
Im sure the two of you could have a high chance of geting along really well and perhaps even fall in love, despite the age difference. However just because two people love each other, it doesnt mean the relationship will work. Love doesnt equal a successful relationship.
I think if you guys did go out, the beguging could be quite well but if you were serious enough to try and stick together, lots of issues would come about, ones that would be pretty hard to deal with. Just to name a few you might experience if you started something with this guy- hes at the age where he might want to be getting married and have children. You are at the age where you may like to go out clubbing and partying etc...hes not, by 28 most people are over it.
Not to mention that at the age of 18 you are not the person you will be for your whole life. YOu still have A LOT of growing and changing to do. So as you change, he might not continue to be in love with that person.
You needs and wants in a relationship with such a big age gap are going to be so different, thats the main reason why it wont work i think.
But its up to you, you can give ita try if you want, all it means is you will have to deal with whatever comes about and you never know, maybe you both can work through these issues.
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reader, edsbabygirl +, writes (3 August 2007):
 You don't need an inspiration to get into a relationship come on. You need to be smart and find out if this guy really even likes you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): 10 years is a lot when you're so young! it's different if you're 25 and he's 35. You're ONLY 18! When I was 22 I dated a guy who was 44....we got along great...but life got in the way a lot. I think the worst thing was the perception. Even his friends sort of looked at me as a trophy girlfriend, even though he didn't treat me that way. The worst was when we went for dinner and people thought I was his daughter! A 28 year old man shouldn't be looking at an 18 year old girl that way. There are many places in the world where your relationship would actually be illegal. I would listen to your mom on this one. (as hard as that can be!) If he legitimately has feelings for you, he will respect your mom's wishes and stick around as a friend only until your mom feels that it is acceptable for you to be together.
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reader, sxcbabiegal +, writes (3 August 2007):
 age is only a number if you like him take a chance your mum can't stop you seeing this guy if you really like him as long as you know that he also likes you make sure the feeling is mutaul get to know him more and then start dating im 14 and my bf is 18 no one likes it but we love each other and we won't let people disagreeing get in our way if this is meant to be it will be lv jodie xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): i think that you should take a chance and see what happends and you never know
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