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writes:I don't know if this really falls under the "love and relationship" category, but here goes:I was spending some time with a girl. We had sex once. Now, I am unable to use a condom. Everytime it goes on, I go down. I've tried different sizes, etc. Nothing seems to work. Anyway, she was pretty nervous about it, but we tried everything to get it to work, she finally decided to just go ahead without the condom and use the old "pull-out" method. We did, and the pull-put worked fine. She commented at that time how much "pre-fluid" (insert your own word for fluid...) there was. I didn't think anytihng of it then. Well, her and I stopped seeing each other for whatever reason (that's a whole other story...), and she started seeing this other guy. She didn't start sleeping with him until after at least a week straight of dating, or so my inside sources tell me. Now, I know this other guy, and he is a straight-edge goody-two-shoes kind of guy - definitely one who would use a condom no matter what.So, today, I hear down the grapevine that she is pregnant. When I add everything together, a) I didn't use a condom, b) he is the kind of guy who would always use one, and c) she was very relunctant about not using one (I was the first person she ever had sex with unprotected), I'm starting to wonder if it's my kid. There's a very good possibility. What should I do? Can she even get pregnant from pre-ejaculate fludis from one sexual experience?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Yea she can but you don't know for a fact what someone else will or will not do (wear a condom) when it comes to sex, some guys are totally different than they normally act. It probably isn't your kid, or she'd have told you she was pregnant. Either that or she wants to pin it on the other guy. Either way, let it be until/unless she tracks you down. Good luck.
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reader, Merisier +, writes (20 April 2008):
Yea she can get pregnant cause same thing happen to a friend of mine. The best way to find out if the baby is yours is to go to a health clinic and have a test.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (20 April 2008):
Yep there is a good chance it could be you if you had unprotected sex with her.
You should never have done it without a condom. If you couldn't have sex you should have done other things instead.
Track her down and talk to her. It could be that the dates prove that it is her new boyfriend.
And for next time, practice doing stuff to yourself while wearing condoms. Get used to the feel of them. Never do this again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (20 April 2008):
 Yes, she can get pregnant from that. This is why the pull-out method isn't good and hardly ever works. The fluids can cause pregnancy, and the chances are there was a lot of it. It definitely sounds like it's your child. In fact, it's most likely that it is. I don't know whether that's a good thing for you or not, but yeah. Sounds like it's your baby.
Wishing you the best.
xxx
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reader, salvation +, writes (20 April 2008):
You should know better than that the pull out method doesnt work its possible to get pregnant even if you pull out. I think that in this situation there is only one thing to do be a man and talk to her and her family about it. Maybe it wasnt you.
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