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anonymous
writes:hi everyone! my ugly situation that im facing right now is that im 24 and im dating this married man that is suppossely 34 but, only God knows if he is telling me the truth or not. i have known this man since Sept of 2009 he was a trainer at the gym im goin to and how we got into a situation is when he started approaching me every day. i will see him at the gym, i never knew he was married since he never talked about it he would only talked about his mom and mention only his mom so I assumed he was single by our conversations we were having but it come to this day wen he asked me out for a coffee and i did have a crush on this man cuz he is good looking anyways so i say yes right away very exited that he finally made the move while drinking our coffee, he started to tell me how happy he was that i have accepted his invitation and that he had a crush too since the first time he saw me and again only God knows if is true.Also, he started saying how happy he would be if i would go to places with him like operas since he is into that, bars, and places. i really thought everything was going good until i said to him i thought you were married and why? i mentioned that is because he is from India and i know that over there they marry at an early age so i got so shocked my heart almost popped out when he said yes and he said something - we dont get along, we dont even sleep in the same bedroom we are very opposites and with you i feel good and happy and we can have a good conversation in any subject and stuff like that, so of course i fall for him, it got me thinking that our relationship will work out fine without any flaws...But i was wrong, this is our 3rd time going out and all he wants to do is have sex and he is telling me all these things, how sex is not bad and the more you do it the better you get at it and also he tells me things like im a clean person, why would you want somebody else who you wouldnt know what kinda health problems he will have like aids and that its not wrong to stay with him until i find my other half. he is saying that he is being my kinda like a supporter for the meantime and that he also will help me find someone nice for me, (wierd but true) and he is trying to do his best for me for the future. when i heard those words it seemed right what im doing but after a while when i go home i know i cant call him cuz he is restricted, its when i feel bad emotionally and i get into this depression that gets me weak.I do like him cuz on the other hand he is very funny and he is good company but still i feel like im doing something very wrong, not only to me but to his family. i tried to talk about this with him but still he would say things oh dont leave me i dont wanna loose you, i really care for you, i dont know how to stop this, im coming to the point where when i see him i dont see love in me and think i'm likin him less every day because he is cheating on his wife and that makes me mad so im not enjoying him anymore as i was before, but its very hard to talk him out of this.Oh and other thing my mom knows about him and friends but they dont know he is married and he is prohibiting me from telling them his status. well i really would love some advice please coz i really want a solution to this, i still believe its not 2 late for it. thanks everyone!
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (20 January 2010):
You want a real soloution? One you can be proud of? Go to his home and tell his wife what you've been doing. Hand her a big knife, get down on your knees and offer her your life in recompense for the horrific agony you have already caused her, that she just doesn't know about yet.She will, eventually find out that you and her idiot have destroyed her heart, her marriage, and her family. If you want a real soloution, you do everything you can to fix the damage you have already caused!What the hell is the matter with you!? fucking a married man ten years your senior, and you don't have the wits to know he's using you? You're nothing more than a warm wet hole to him!Use both brain cells on this one - This man is married, screwing you on the side, and yet you trust him enough to not think he's got a few more little tarts like you hidden away? He's lying to his wife for god's sake, he'll lie to you even more easily! Where has he been? where have his other girlfriends been? Does he have AIDS or Ghonnorea, or chlymidia, or herpes? How could you even begin to be stupid enough to trust him when he tells you he's "clean".
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 January 2010):
Of course all he wants to do is have sex and use you. He doesn't care about you, he just wants the sex. There is only one solution, and that's to end it. You're just being used by a married man who us lying to his wife and you about how he really feels. Do you want to be nothing to this man, or something to another man who is unmarried and will actually give his life for you. End it.
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