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writes: Hello all,Ok, im 19 years old male. Still virgin and never had a gf before. Actually i dont care about virginity, lonelyness hurts alot more. Ive got the worst of everythink u can think of. First of all im pretty short, only 5ft nd 9. I know girls like much more taller guys, they only accept shorter ones if they are cute and cute is the last thing u can tell about me. second, im pretty ugly. People say im not but i know i am, its not about self-confidence (which i dont have anyways), when im in front of a mirror, its there. third, i cant communicate (even with males), i feel like im out of human race. I know love and relationships are not everything in a person's life, but the rest is pretty meaningless without them. I need to do something to make my life worthy of living.Is it possible to change anything in my life? I feel so helpless, and totally lost. (also im sorry for my terrible english, just another thing that im bad at) Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 I want to begin by saying that, at 5'7", I'm visibly shorter than you are, but I don't care about my height. I stopped worrying about it a long time ago. And I think I wouldn't want a girl to love me, or give in to concupiscence and all sort of sinful and delicious things, if it were just for my height. Fortunately, childhood malnutrition spared me that problem.
I'm sure you've heard it countless times: you can be very ugly indeed, but, if you have the right attitude and personality, girls will come to you. It's the same as with women: I have met some women who, er, arrived late when God was distributing beauty, but who manage to have men at their feet all the same, because of their personality.
I can say something good about you, even though I haven't seen you. You have the right diagnosis of your problem. Now it's easy: just work to overcome that.
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reader, samsmommy  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 I'm not sure exactly what you mean by your question... Do you mean change how you look, your attitude, or just change your life in general? First I really want to address your height issue that's not really an issue at all. Some girls do like tall guys, but other girls just want someone that's at least as tall as them. I think the average height for a woman is like 5'7? Maybe an inch shorter or taller, I'm not really sure. But my point is, girls like all different heights, and a lot of us don't really care at all.
And as for you saying your ugly, you would be surprised what some of my friends say is cute. People have such different preferences when it comes to appearance, even if you don't think you're cute at all, trust me, someone does.
You shouldn't be concerned with the communication thing either. Some people don't just click with everyone all of the time. Going out more, hanging out with friends more, usually will gradually fix that problem. If you're not used to going out to a club, movie, or just hanging out with friends, then of course you're going to have a communication problem because you're not used to those kinds of settings. The more you go out and do things, the easier it should be to talk to & get to know people.
I really hoped I helped you, at least a little. Message me anytime!
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