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writes:So me and this guy were texting the other day, just like hi how are you type of stuff. Then he says "we should hang out sometime..." so I simply responded "yeah we should." I do really want to, but I didn't want to be the one to have to ask him out. Did he want me to ask to hang out or was he just gauging my interest? Or was he planting a seed to possibly ask me to hang out later?
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 I think MANswers could be right.
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reader, MANswers +, writes (29 June 2009):
ummm...sorry had to cut that answer short to hang with my boo for a while. To add a little bit, every woman I have ever ended up in a relationship with was willing to meet me halfway and give some kind concrete sign that she was interested. Example: I say "we should hang out", she says "ok, I'm free saturday afternoon". If I don't get a response along those lines I assume she's not interested and move on to other prospects. Know that the ball is in your court now. He's already put it out there and it's on you to make the next move. It's entirely possible that he won't ask again, so you probably shouldn't wait around for that.
Lucky for you there's an easy fix to the situation. The next time you talk/text just ask him when he wants to hang out and viola! problem solved. I'd advise you do it relatively early in the conversation to relieve him of any pressure he might be feeling after getting blown off by you the last time.
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reader, MANswers +, writes (29 June 2009):
OK, I've had this exact exchange with women a few times, and while I can't say with 100% certainty what's in his head, I think I have a good idea. He WAS asking you out, you just totally missed it. He's not really sure if you're interested or not so rather than put himself all the way out there on a limb to get crushed, he's going halfway and seeing if you'll meet him there. He probably thinks you brushed him off. A noncommittal yes from a woman pretty much always means no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Who knows what exactly went through his head. All we know is, he said he wanted to hang out and you said it back. If it were me, i would've been looking for a little more encouragement on the other end. Anyone can just agree and say "yeah.. we should." I would be looking more for
"Yeah! Where to do you like to hang out?"
just to show that he/she truely is interested and is not just being polite.
Maybe you should open the subject back up using that line. At this point though, it doesn't really matter. You both want to hang out so one of you is bound to mention it again. There's no shame in being the initiator.
~Sy.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 He asked you a straight forward question and you answered in a straight forward way. Now its up to one of you to ask when and where and get on with it! lol its simple.
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (29 June 2009):
 u shouldnt worry about this.because its just hanging out.i dont think either of u guys have asked each other out its just hanging out as friends he is either kinda intrested or he just wants to be friends.so just go and hang out wit him.i screwed up in this situation cuz a guy texted me and did exacly wat ur guy did and i replied wit the same answer as u did.but then the other day i was like ohh is it a date or something and we never spoke again so i recomened u dont ask and just go for it as friends and watever happened happened :D good luck
keep me updated
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