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writes:I met a man on a train on the way into New York City.He was very helpful as I was asking for directions and he travels often, so we spent about an hour chatting. He gave me his number so he could send me some links and when I texted him to thank him, he nonchalantly wrote, you're welcome, kid, see you next trip. So I thought nothing of it. On our ride, there was some closeness, as he was pointing out some landmarks out the window where I was sitting, leaning into me, and I believe he did have his hand just touching my thigh. I didn't think much of it. I suppose because I met him so randomly, there is an element of serendipity? Or maybe because I am hopelessly romantic with having been raised on romantic comedies of the 90s, and it was on my way to NYC. Anyway, I didn't have any time to see him again, and when I returned home, I said I hope to see him again. He let me know when he would be in town again, and in no reality would I be flying out to meet a stranger I just met for an hour. He was telling me about this great french cafe in the city and I said, I rather go to a french cafe in France. To which I think there was an invitation to go to Paris for the weekend? I asked if he was serious and he said it would be a lot of fun. We started talking more about traveling, and other places started jumping on the list. I can not take any of this seriously of course. A part of me would love to just go on an adventure with any opportunity that comes along. Upon my internet searches, I was able to verify some of the things he divulged of himself, a man of many talents, titles, experience, culture, and interests and knowledge that would open me to a whole other perspective on life. I've learned so far to believe in actions of course, anyone can say anything they want, so I will just let things happen as they do. Just - what kind of person makes a kind of offer like that to a random person they just met? And what kind of person am I, that I would say, sure why not. Well only if it happens of course, but the intent itself, is strange?
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reader, powderedheart +, writes (7 November 2014):
powderedheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha the thing is i didnt find him to be flirty at all when i was with him. Or maybe because I am so oblivious.
He was very polite and very much the gentlemen.
I joked that he was my sherpa, and he said then he should be carrying my bags. swoon. I actually wasn't paying much attention to him and his stories until I saw his passport picture LOL, it was super hot, I suppose we all look pretty disheveled after a plane ride. And his hair was longer and he had glasses on, he was attractive but I wasn't looking right at it ti I saw his picture LOL.
Wah! Okay - I will accept that it was just a large scale flirting!!! It was interesting as it lasted. My little new york moment.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 November 2014):
 It was a chance encounter and a grand flirt..
NO one on this side of the pond flies to Paris for the weekend... (Amsterdam for a 4 day bachelor party is the quickest trip I know of)
YOU are attracted to him and somewhere have this hope that it's going to be a grand romance... it is not.
it's over and done. you had a lovely trip on the train with a lovely flirtatious man...
don't hold your breath for that trip :-)
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reader, powderedheart +, writes (7 November 2014):
powderedheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am attracted to him!
But he was making all these moves I was oblivious to.
Well - we can't have any dates because he hasn't asked me, and we don't live in the same city.
Well I can not do anything now.
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reader, Miss Lou +, writes (7 November 2014):
Sounds like he's flirting and wants to explore with you. He is attracted to you. Are you attracted to him? Go on some dates, keep your head on, and don't jump into anything serious too fast. Look for red flags but don't miss out on a chance for love and adventure. Just be careful and listen to your gut.
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reader, powderedheart +, writes (6 November 2014):
powderedheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello! thanks so much for your responses.Well I was kind of shocked that he made such a random offer.I mean, it is still pretty easy to say whatever you want to a stranger and do nothing about it. He said he invited me because he assumed I spoke the language. I started throwing out other places I want to go to, and other languages I spoke, and languages he spoke, and he said "we have a lot of trips to plan"... so ridiculous. I suppose it could go either way. I have been in the position where men have made ridiculous offers that never happen, so I am very grounded, but part of me wishes for more of course. Flirting on a grand scale. I think he might have been flirting with me while we were chatting but I was so oblivious to it all, in a "yeah sure" kind of way, inviting me to things, saying he now has an excuse to visit my city more often, i was just like oh okay sure. He is just a stranger, but I felt very comfortable with him... so who knows. Most likely nothing, but I am open.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2014): He sounds like a narcissist when you wake up from the crazy dreams it will be a nightmare. People don't offer things unless they want something in return for the most part. If you want to travel, do it yourself or with friends you know. I have met people while traveling but I wouldn't endanger myself by going off with random people, men in particular, on my own and anyone suspect was eliminated right off the bat. It's sad but this is the world we live in there are too many psychos out there. There is nothing special about him he just may have more money than you that is all.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 November 2014):
 If he hasn't actually asked you out on a date, then the 'offer' he's made is, well, worthless. It's flirting on a grand scale.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 November 2014):
There's always the people that will tell you he's a murderer, but I think it'd be fun as long as you think about how to protect yourself.
I've had random encounters like this whole travelling and met some incredible people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2014): I think you are reading too much into what he said. People say these things all the time: hey,let's meet in a this and this country, that could be fun. But when it comes to real life usually it doesn't happen. I mean, of course it does happens but may be one in a million.
It's very easy to say things to a complete strangers. Much easier than to someone you know well. There is a very good chance that you will never meet again, why nit just say whatever comes to mind. And I don't see anyhting strange that you are willing to going adventure. Be cautios but life ispne if adventure, why not.
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