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writes:Can anyone tell me what type of body language the following comes across in a male (apart from just being a comfortable position).I was sat next to a male friend on a sofa, he had chosen to sit next to me when there were other chairs in the room, every time he got up he came back and sat back next to me on the two seater. The one time when I went to get food I came back and he had both his feet up on the sofa but in an L shape so one knee pointing towards me when sat down and the other knee was upright. I told him to put his feet down but he refused to so basically sat there 'open crotched'.Is that a natural stance for a bloke because its more comfortable for them to sit like that. This guy was in his 50s, I would expect it more from a younger guy as don't think I have ever noticed an older guy do that. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2019): I agree it’s rude because it takes up space without consideration for others. And you’re not alone. Look up the word “manspreading.”
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reader, caliente  +, writes (29 March 2019):
A few thoughts. Men tend to spread and reveal their crotch when in the presence of someone they are attracted to OR to exert dominance.
Spreading some is good. Taking space over too much (so he is encroaching on others) can be rude.
If his bent knee was pointed towards you that indicates positive feelings or attraction towards you.
However, if you felt that he was encroaching upon your space negatively that is a bad sign. However, if he was encroaching upon you just a bit, that could indicate that he is comfortable with you or more likely, attracted to you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 March 2019):
 A very rude body language ! This man shows no respect and no concern for others ,and a remarkable self-absorption.
I hope at least this was his place and his sofa, otherwise..." he had his feet both up on the sofa " : what, with shoes on, maybe ??Omygod ( well, not that without shoes is much better, if you are in somebody else's house sitting on their furniture, but at least you won't leave scuff marks ).
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (28 March 2019):
 Rude behavior from a man who clearly didn't want to share the couch and didn't care if you knew it or not. He was basically daring you to sit there.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 March 2019):
 Yep, I agree, He wanted the couch to himself. THAT is NOT how you sit if you want someone you don't know REALLY REALLY well, to sit next to you.
If it was HIS home I can see it "being comfortable" (but exaggerated) if it WASN'T his home... RUDE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2019): It meant you were sitting next to a jerk who decided he wanted to takeover the couch and hoped you'd go find yourself another place to sit if you didn't like it. It meant he had no manners or respect for others when he refused to close his legs and be civilized. He was demonstrating how to be a complete jackass just because you have testicles.
No, it is neither necessary nor natural for males to sit like they have soccer balls for testicles. It's exaggerated machismo which means absolutely nothing. You can attach any derogatory name that you like to someone who has no manners.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 March 2019):
 Some people claim it is more comfortable … but if that is the case how come men down through the ages haven't been painted, or photographed, doing the man spread? Spreading their legs like that was found to be so offensive in Spain that the practice is banned on public transport. Personally I find it offensive … and a clear demonstration of a lack of respect. He clearly wanted the 2 person sofa all to himself.
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