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writes: Well just recently maybe half a year ago a friend of mine had introduced me to her little brother and we had been talking ever sinceTo be honest i just thought that he was another really hot guy that id never get the chance to be with but ive wanted him ever since... So this year i get a phone and we start txting like a lot and we obviously enjoy each other's company since we do txt A LOT haha Then we started talking on the phone and sooner or later we became closer to the point where we even gave each other nicknamez (He's booboo and im bunbun lmao) and soon after, surprisingly he told me that he loved me (in A very funny way).I didnt believe him at first,i thought he was kidding i even told him and he laughed and said "your so deniant" and soon after we became even closer and....today.....he confessed his love for me i. So many paragraphs and my heart just couldnt absorb it all. He told me that he loves me and misses me and that the more we call and txt he falls even more in love with me and that i make his. 'emo' life Alive and that it would tear him apart if i had loved someone more than him and he doesnt think that he could ever love someone the way he loves me. This shocked me, I really couldnt believe. I mean this dude lives in another state and could have any guy/girl he wanted (yes he's bi) but he chooses me of all ppl. and on top of that were young im 14 and a half and he's 16 i mean we could easily forget each other, we have a whole life ahead of us and thats why its so hard for me to believe that i could truly allow myself to love like this but i do, I cant help it, at this time i cant resist him at all.I m planning on seeing him in a few years.....but since he currently lives in another state i tell him that he can do whatever he wants but just try not to fall for anyone else and he agreed.so now im stuck in my room completely taken back like im losing sight of reality. what do you all think? Should i take the risk? Reply to this Question
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reader, Philips  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 Its chemicals in your brains, Adrenaline, Dopamine, Serotonin. Attraction is natural.Think on the long-term.Maybe waiting will be too long for you and you'll cheat.Just think if you are strong enough.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 It's a deal, then :) You enjoy your sweet, young romance in the here and now- without burdening it with unrealistic expectations and without ever neglecting to socialize with friends and do all your normal stuff ( including school ! ). So if it lasts it's fine- and if it does not, you won't have got obsessed and won't feel devastated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirsr and foremost id like to thank you for your opinion and helping me realize that the relationship between him and I could most likely lastAnd that i was right to not be so naive to the point where iCompletely believe that the love will last .Now if the relationship ends my heart will not suffer as much.However,ive. been thinkin about it overnight and i decided that well yea i do really like this guy and he likes me too so y just end it now.Since i know what to expect i could just enjoy this fantasy as you call it ahaha without being......ummm I think the word isignorant to the fact that things might not last forever?Am I right? Lol but who knows anything's possible it might just work out. We'll both just have to wait and see.Thank u for making it easier for me,for making this clearAnd for opening my eyes because they were right love is truly blind :)
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (4 April 2011):
Frankly ,no. You should be out of your room, having fun with your friends in real life, and meeting boys in real life that you can get to know in person, not by text, and establish a workable relationship with.
You are just feeding a love fantasy now, and there's nothing wrong with that, but it may become dangerously and pointlessly overwhelming and time consuming.
I am not saying that the guy is a liar, probably as of this moment he believes he loves you. So ? At his age romantic feelings go in and out randomly and whimsically like kittens in and out of a litterbox, so I would not bet the family farm on his ( or your ) feelings lasting
a long time. They may, if you keep them feeding them artificially with romantic sweet nothings to stroke each other ego ( tons of booboos and bunbuns )- but this has got nothing to do with a real relationship.
Anyway, regardless of age, LDRs are difficult, they only can work if the separation is temporary and there is a workable plan to get reunited in a reasonable time frame. But in your case, you are 14, how much would you be waiting before you can be together ? 4, 5 years or more ?...
Make sure that real life, and a real love, does not pass you by while you are busy chasing dreams...
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