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writes:Hie.I have a boyfriend who is 2 years younger than me and we have been together for two years now.i met another man who is married and said he is having problems with his wife and startedhaving an affair.he said they will break up soon so as to marry me.my boyfriend loves me and trust me so much how can i tell himtthat its over
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reader, hummm  +, writes (17 August 2012):
WOW OK so I am a male I was married before and I had friends who pulled this "gag" It is so easy to tell a girl "well I am married but my wife is a real B*$ch so I am going to leave her but wow you are so awesum, you understand me, you are so great , so lets sleep together and I promise I am leaving my wife as soon as I can Well as a male I can tell you he is full of BS and I can tell you as a male I fell for the same thing from a female..If someone is really unhappy in marriage you get divorced..i Did .. and then you recover, you go through many emotions to determine if you did the right thing then you look ..you do not start looking before the end as in divorce when anyone male or female says it is over but want to see you on the side well they are not willing to end what they have they just want more on the side do you know what I mean?/ Hope so have a good day and don't fall for a married man he is not leaving she has to much for him to lose and this applies to woman too.!!
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reader, ktmae +, writes (17 August 2012):
 first thing . . . What makes you think this man wont do the same to you . Do you remember the old saying . . . Dont leave the one you love for the one you like because he will leave you for the one he loves. . .I would make sure this is really what you want. But to answer your question honesty is the best policy do him a favor and do it soon so he can start getting over the heart break . . . He deserves to be able to move on just as you have.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (17 August 2012):
 I would be very careful in this situation if I were you. In fact, I have been you. Except my married man was my best friend and we had an emotional affair.
First of all, understand that all married men tell this same story about their terrible wives to their new girlfriends.
Also consider that if he was "going to break up soon", he would have done it already. I would ask him how much longer it is going to take. I would also want him to divorce his wife not just "break up". What good is a break-up if he's still married? He can't marry you if he's still married to her, now can he?
I know I have not answered your question, but I would feel negligent if I did not tell you that you will never get what you want out of a married man. He will not leave his wife, they never do. He will string you along as long as he can and when you are finally sick of it, he will just go out and find someone else.
So, if it was up to me...I wouldn't break up with your boyfriend who loves and trusts you. I would stop seeing the married man, but you probably won't do that will you?
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reader, starstrukkx3  +, writes (16 August 2012):
 I think that before you rush into anything, you should be absolutely certain that the other man is definitely leaving his wife for you. I don't mean to offend you by this, it's just I've read so many stories about 'the other woman' who has to wait years and years for her lover to divorce his wife, and sometimes the divorce never even happens.
This aside, I think you should sit your boyfriend down and discuss your relationship in great detail. Ask him if he's satisfied with the relationship and if he thinks it will last. Then gently break it to him that you have doubts about the relationship and want to separate from him. Remember that this guy loves you, so don't come out with the other man thing just yet, although you could suggest that you both try and meet someone new.
I hope this helps. :-)
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